Don’t want to lose anus
New member. Just received diagnosis with tumor 1cm from sphincter. Has anyone had a tumor shrunk and removed without losing their anus/sphincter and ability to poop normally? Any hope at all?
The idea of losing my body parts and changing my life forever, colostomy bag and whatnot as a single mom in her 40s is excruciatingly scary and depressing. Afraid of how I will manage chemo as a single mom but even more how to feel whole.
Desperate to hear hope that I might not lose ability to poop normally.
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Hi @blby1976, good to hear that reading the discussions here led to your asking the radiation oncologist questions.
How did the appointment with the oncologist go? When do you start chemoradiation?
Thank you for asking. I had my port placed today, will start chemo Monday, and radiation Tuesday. So far, I am impressed with all of my doctors and their staffs. Thankful for this group, though I know not everything will pertain to me.
U of Miami. The same.
First class and excellent in all regards
Make sure you have a dedicated team. Surgeon/ oncologist/ if necessary urologist
Also that they have a review board of that team / radiologists all looking at things done at their hospital
Saves time versus good hospitals with just a specialist who then needs to recruit others leading to time delays
I was diagnosed with anal cancer in September of 2022. I had 6 weeks of radiation and chemo. I was not declared cancer free until September of 2023. The treatment continued to work for months after it was completed. During that time I suffered from fecal incontinence caused by the radiation. I spent my days either in the bathroom or looking for one. The pain from the radiation was intolerable at times. Doctors don’t tell you that the pelvic area is one of the most sensitive areas to tolerate radiation. I was left with no other option than to have a colostomy. My surgery was in October 2024. I cried my heart out when the doctors suggested it. Thinking it was the worst possible solution. Here I am almost 5 months later and I feel great! Yes, having a bag is life changing, but it has given me back my life! I am no longer tied to the bathroom. So to answer your question, not having a functioning anus is no big deal!
Today is St. Patrick 's day and it is also my 8th Anniversary of my APR surgery. I took was dishearted and concern when I was told that . Yet 8 years later my stomach is the same size of a quarter and nothing has changed with me either . I travel, camp , fish , hike and this has not changed or disrupted my lifestyle in any way.
Amen! I will be 90 in April and do all the same things. Having a sewed up bottomland wearing an ostomy bag does not bother me in the least.
No more rectal examination and no more having to find a head. lol
DONT LOSE HOPE!!! At the beginning I was told there was a VERY good chance I would have to have surgery, lose that part of my body and have a colostomy bag rest of my life.
Im single mom, early 40s and that news devastated me. I was diagnosed Stage 3 summer 2022. After all my treatments, etc... come March 2023, I had a complete response to treatment. No surgery and no bag. HAVE FAITH. For 2 years every 3 months I have scans and occasional colonoscopy and I am continue to pray it does not come back. And if it does, ill pray again no surgery or bag. Just take it day at atime
Hi @ashleymeade, welcome. I can hardly imagine hearing you have cancer, stage 3 at 40 years old. It's hard to hear the word "cancer" at any age, but as a single mom with kids depending on you, you must've been on an emotional rollercoaster. It must've been a rough year.
I'm so grateful that you took the time to post your success story here - a complete response to treatment. How has your recovery after treatment been? How are your energy and activity levels? How did your kids handle the diagnosis and treatment journey?
Thank You for welcoming me.
The 1st 4 months every other week I flew to another state to get my chemo for 3 -4 days. And it was alot of flying. Flew in on Sunday. Chemo through my IV port Mon- Wed and flew home right after chemo on Wednesday and this was flying home from that largest airport in the US.... NOT FUN! But I wanted to get home, luckily only 45 min flight.
Then I was off for month. And then I moved to the state where I was getting my treatment for 6 weeks. I had radiation everday along with chemo pill everyday.
I think this is when / where I started getting from side affects from. About 2 days after my radiation and chemo pill ended I started having numbness and within 2 months diagnosed with "Severe neuropathy". 1 year down the month I am maxed out on Gabapentin for nerve damage causing me numbess from shins to toes, my feet tingle, ache and burn and my finger tips are numb most times.
Since I was young and fit when this all started I was given a higher dose a chemo not realizing the effect it would have on me afterwards. My life has changed alot! ANYTHING textured on my feet feels like nails like walking on sandy beach, carpet, concrete driveway, socks, etc..... As for my hands anything hot or really cold hands feel like they are on fire, skin feels like sandpaper, mans beard feels like texture,etc.... so things in life that we enjoy like strolling down the beach, feeling our soft legs after nice shave, touching a soft blanket, etc... those I am no longer able to enjoy
I am currently just about exhausted everything from accupuncture, physical therapy, eletric mats, herbals, etc... but I am not giving up hope
The hardest part as a single parent or just being a parent period.....Is having my 12 year old daughter go live with her dad 2 hrs away while I was doing ALL treatments and as we speak now while I finish my 2 years of getting check ups, every 3 months so I can focus on my health along with the ups and downs . Luckily she comes home on weekends
So you don’t recommend anyone in Milwaukee?