You have some difficult decisions to make. I had my chemo and transplant in Indianapolis and lived in southern Michigan, so it took good 3,5 hours to get to the hospital. My husband was my caregiver and made that drive to Indy numerous times. It was still doable, since we could schedule an early appointment, get everything done by noon and be back home by the end of the day.

Bedside manners are very important, since you feel like the doctor doesn’t care about you or doesn’t have your best interests in mind if they don’t have that skill. I recommend talking to a social worker on your team about your concerns. They may be able to give you good advice about how to navigate your experience with this doctor.

I had an excellent transplant doctor at IU Health. His name was Dr. Farag. It made such a difference and helped reduce stress for me. I was also hospitalized at a local hospital and had a very negative experience with a hospitalist there. I couldn’t wait to get discharged and never see him again.

Wishing you all the best!