I think, like many things in life, if you have not personally experienced something, it remains somewhat abstract. I was guilty of thinking my father, father-in-law, and brother's prostate cancers "weren't serious". Then, years later, I was diagnosed - by a rather insensitive physician - who literally made me feel I would die soon - I went home and "googled" "what to do if you only have one year". Fortunately, all scans and tests revealed no spread anywhere and had surgery. But the after-effects of surgery have been a "challenge". So many things one takes for granted for one's entire life can be gone. No one truly understands this until they have personally experienced it. It can, in some ways, be a "lonely journey". Fortunately, there are many great supports out there (like this forum) to help.