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Hello , I just recently , Thursday had a meth pipe fall out of my sons pocket. He turned 28 yesterday....turned into a confession . He has been thro an awful separation , had 2 children doesn't see them anymore , 4 and 6...his wife left him for a much older man. He has been thro a dui an accident with a deer 3 weeks ago..came home with a 40 yr old gf..homeless she is..who I found out was on meth and fenatyl..I did not think he was. I am shook. The stigma with drugs is quite overwhelming. His sister wants them gone. She says they will steal , the and destroy what life I have left and my health, which is frail. I tried being tough they slept in a cold truck in minus10..any advice..anything.I've even had the police call me as they feel he needs a conversation....
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How are you doing by now? Any changes with your son?
My brother abused drugs and alcohol for several decades. After my father died, my mother invited him to live with her, but she was emphatic about no drugs or alcohol in her house. She caught him a few times and told him he had to leave until he was ready to get serious again. This happened several times.
But within the year he was clean and sober and was a good companion for Mom. He probably was a better cook than Mom, and she wasn't eating well on her own. After she died, we arranged for him to stay in our parents' condo as long as he needed, and now, more than ten years later, he's doing well. Kind of a nutrition fanatic and doing well.
With help, accountability, support and time, he can be healed from his addiction. I pray that it will be so.
Jim
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You're in a tough situation, being there for your son, not being an enabler and taking care of yourself.
Few suggestions:
- The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website has helpful information, including "How to Help Someone You Care About"
https://www.samhsa.gov/find-support/helping-someone
Look for an Al-Anon or Nar-Anon meeting in your area. It is a support group for family and friends of people who have a substance abuse problem. It is OK to go to an Al-Anon meeting for drug abuse problems, it is not just for alcohol problems. Maybe your daughter (if an adult) could go to a meeting with you.
https://www.nar-anon.org/
https://al-anon.org/
Seeing the police have reached out to you, ask them for advice and local resources.
As your daughter suggested, you need to take care and protect yourself. Set boundaries. If you have valuables in house, make sure they are locked up.
Does your son want help with his drug problem? Is he willing to have an drug / alcohol assessment or seek help?
It is hard to help someone who does not want help.