Your message is one of thoughts I have also. Husband is 80 and I am 73. He is the love of my life and over last year he was suddenly not the same. After a year of testing he was diagnosed with moderate dementia and then tongue cancer. He has had surgery and recovered very well but the dementia level changes daily. He realizes, sometimes, what is happening but even when he doesn’t he will tell me how much he loves me and he thanks me for all I do for him. There is a deepening of our love now that we are faced with the urgency of time remaining. We have found going through old pictures of us helps bring joy and memories back to us both and brush some of the sadness away. God bless us all for this living tragedy.