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I know this is a post from last year, but this is hitting the nail on the head regarding my 86 year old mother who is suffering from early onset of dementia and thyroid medication issues, etc.… In and out of the hospital only And almost lost her a couple of times due to her, not taking her blood pressure and thyroid medication and because of a UTI twice. I’m the one that’s making the call To get a Get an ambulance out to their house or I have actually driven for hours to get there and take her myself. Her significant other is 92 years old and he has wiped his hands clean. They’ve been together for 44 years never married but living in their house for almost 20 years but he refuses to make any phone calls to EMS, the doctor or the hospital or home Health Care that is set up Which almost resulted in her dying twice. I’m so glad I have read the comments on this article because I do have information Regarding hospice care week and I already have Home Healthcare set up and a skilled nurse coming once a wk and have asked just ask them to get it approved to come three times a week plus she has a physical therapist That comes once a Twice a week. We are going to the neurologist today to see what stage of dementia she’s in and if there’s something they can give her to help her mind a little more clear. I guess at this point everything I’m doing is the best I can do… I do not live in the same city. I’m 4 to 4 1/2 hours away. But I’ve been coming here about every 3 to 4 weeks and I also help on weekends take care of my grandchildren. So I guess I’m not alone when it comes to this matter… I’m so happy to see that others have had to deal with this and I’m taking some of their information into consideration. Thank you for making this post and thank you to all the ones that have commented.

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@deb6858mom Wow, you’ve got a lot on your hands! Your mom’s 92 yr old partner may be just as confused and upset by all that is happening around him. Making such a phone call is probably beyond him. I made a call to 911 several weeks ago and it was nerve wracking! They talk to fast and ask lots of questions and i could barely hear them. And I’m not 92!
Have you given any thought to having your mom in a memory care unit? Maybe the partner’s family could work with you so they could both go to a safe place. Is that somethng you could think about?