No need to apologize here as that’s what we’re all doing here. The biggest problems are the ones we are personally experiencing….all of us.

My research taught me that the results are different for us all (age, surgeon, prep, etc, etc, etc) - all of which is frustrating even if it does make sense. My RALP was last Sept 14. I prepped with the advise from this book, Vanita Gaglani’s Life After Prostatectomy, which I believe was a huge help. My personal path was to regain continence gradually but fairly quickly post-op. I am still learning to control the occasional leak (my nemesis is after the first urination of the day and sudden twists or exertions lifting something but I’m better each day).

Time - and dedicated work - will make things better. I also believe a big factor for me was attitude. I believe that being focused and positive will bring good results, regardless of where we are now. Good luck to you, Charlie. Keep the faith, stay focused, work diligently, and stay in touch here.