Hi all. I've just been diagnosed with stage three tosil cancer on Feb 22nd. 63 year old male. Have seen the surgical oncologist and the radiology oncologist, both present the pro's and con's of each, both sound terrible and my head is spinning. Both recommend there own procedure and essentially leave it up to me the patient to decide. I'm wondering if some of you in this discussion have had surgery then radiation, just radiation or combination?

Any input would be greatly appreciated 🙂 - John B

Probably the hardest thing to deal with when we hear the "c" word is we will never be the same. Sure, we can beat it but I don't think it ever leaves our soul completely. Recently I've spent some time trying to visualize what our future looks like and sometimes that's very hard. My wife will try to snap me out of it and has to drag me around lol. One thing I live on is the fact that I know you can't grow without hardship. So I try to remain patient and wait for the day when I look back and see the beauty in something so tragic. I've always been a very strong person but this has really humbled me. One thing I don't have anymore is control and that's tough to deal with.
Anyway...I'm rambling.....just thought maybe sharing some of our struggles would help you relate. Caregivers share in these tragedies so they also need grace.