@cris2 I certainly did not have the experience many had and am blessed for that. But it challenged me in my own way and still does 6 weeks after surgery. They told me I would most likely be on a tube if I didn't eat or drink. I put that in my mind as unacceptable and visualized doing it. And it worked. After that I just said that I have to do what I'm supposed to be doing and that is healing. Sometimes the sadness is overwhelming but I just have to get up and fight. A lot of times we don't recognize our caregivers. My wife is my angel and he sure is lucky to have you. That's a huge deal that we sometimes miss.