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I did share with my friend that she had cognitive issues and used an example so she would understand, even though most people with dementia, in my experience, do not think they have a problem.
One day I came home from doing some grocery shopping for my friend Carolyn, and she said, "let me pay you for that." I said, "you already did." I think this helped her understand that she did in fact, have some memory issues. However, she has no clue that she has memory issues, which makes it even more difficult to explain the diagnosis.
Best to you.

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One of my memory losses occurred a few years back when I had a miniature club meeting at my home.. We all sat around the table and made tiny hydrangea flower arrangements for our dollhouses.. Fun! I had purchased a large amount of miniature crocks and pots, some even with lids.. I mentioned to one of the ladies that I had decided to give half of them to her after she asked if she could buy some from me..
Days later a small package arrived in the mail, from her... I was surprised, of course.. Well, when I opened the package I discovered that it was a bunch of the miniature crocks that I had offered to her as a gift but thought I still needed to do it.. Also enclosed was a brief letter
telling me that she was shocked that I wanted to take them back, especially after we had done so many crafts together!
I was mortified... since I had already given them to her and then totally forgotten ...
She told me in the letter that she had already created her little French kitchen and used them, but had ripped them all out to return them to me!
Both she and her husband were very angry at me and never forgave me, of course..
sigh.... a memory is a sad thing to lose....