There is no question that when Lyft and Uber came out, I breathed a sigh of relief since one of my big fears is not being able to drive myself places. I use Lyft now when my partner needs the car but I have to go to a doctor's appointment, etc. It is not cheap but probably no more expensive than owning, maintaining and insuring a car, especially if you just need to go a few times a month. Of course, if he is driving yet, then it IS an added expense.

Can your kids or other family members intervene and talk to him so you don't have to take the hostile reaction? If I was you, I would still research the kind of places you think you would want to live so you are ready if the situations changes. And at our ages (I am 78), the landscape can change rather drastically overnight. You could even enlist him in the search on the "I need to know what is available if something happens to you" premise. If he comes with you, there might even be something he likes!