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Sexual activity is gone but so are all the other intimacies...the way things were before. He just isn't the same person. He hears my voice but doesn't understand, really, what I am saying...or remember. In fact, my talking seems to incite anger sometimes...I'm not a big talker but anything said to question, clarify, or comment may result in an angry outburst...minor things. Sometimes I share an anecdote about someone we know or offer something I read that is interesting...I can see his eyes glaze over. My friend tells me they only "hear" one out of every 4 words...hearing and vision are impacted. So,I've become very quiet. A white board tracks the date and whatever appts at on the schedule for the day. I try to have him change the day and date and ask him at some point what the month is...if I repeat this exercise every day he may recall the month eventually...sometimes the day or date....just something Im trying as a way of helping him stay in the present. So, yeah! MCI...a hell that goes on and on and on. The greatest fear is the future...with him and without him...

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I am so sorry about the anger issues. Hopefully they won't present.
It's hard having to change who you are to deal with this, and losing yourself and having your own personality change as a result. I sometimes struggle to control my emotions in front of him, when responding with frustration to his stuff.
I am trying to remind myself to be as patient and calm as I was with our young children. As a parent it's not always easy to control your temper; let's see if I get better at controlling my reactions.
Blessings to you. 🫶