Hi. I commend for the hard work of thinking through all the treatments offered, looking for more information and questioning. As to negotiations with oncologists, I can’t tell you what to do but I can tell you some of my experience. You are right. It is your body and your life. At the age of 72 I was diagnosed in December 2021 with MBC to the bones. I was in great health and on no medications. I have been eating plant based for 8 years. I was reluctant to put the FDA approved poisons in my body. I did a lot of research including the lengthy discussions on this forum. Over the course of 2022 I refused 3 medications and 1 procedure. Each time I had to sign a document. Looking back I feel I should have refused another medication that I tried. I continue my research and choose other non toxic substances. In 2023 I learned that cancer is a metabolic disease which calls for a completely different approach than the conventional standard of care offered to us. It’s unfortunate that we are not offered anything more. There are certified oncolgy naturopathic medical doctors and others who can help us. But you have to find them on your own which isn’t so hard because we have the internet. It is very time consuming. Cancer research has become a very worthwhile part time job for me. Each person has to make her own decisions. I hope this helps a bit.