It's the flip flopping that is really bothering me. Going from all nonchalant about it making me wonder if they even care too now I'm the one having to be strong for them because they are scared. Where was that for me when I was struggling to come to terms with this. Anyway humans will be humans I guess. I'm glad I have these groups or I would feel completely alone in this. Thank you all for your support and understanding. 🙂