I had my surgery 13 months ago and I've been reading these posts for a year now. I can assure you, there is no one answer to what your future holds. Healing is going to take several weeks but your body will recover. Will you have ED? Yup, be prepared for needing medical help for getting erections. It might be pills, a VED device or injections (or some combination). But it will work if you give it a chance. Will you experience incontinence? Yup. But here is where the answers swing wildly. Some guys swear they are dry as soon as the catheter comes out. Some say it takes weeks; others months. I am finally "dry" after 13 months. Why the quotation marks? Because almost everyone who says they are dry, still puts a pad in their underwear for that occasional leak / potential embarrassment. I am like that. I still haven't conquered golf and pickleball days either. Stress leaking is worse during those activities. Why did it take 13 months for me? No one has had an answer. I did kegels faithfully but eventual exasperation got the best of me and and I went to pelvic floor therapy which is far superior to just doing kegels. The PT got me to my current condition and I assume I will be doing all these exercises at home daily for the rest of my life to be as dry as possible. I went through lots of days when I was sure I would have to get some artificial help with the incontinence (AUS or sling) but I am glad I didn't do that. I finally feel I have recovered to the point where I am at a place where I can take this for the rest of my days. Good luck and keep us posted about your recovery.