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Update on my husband. This week he went to pick up pizza 10 minutes away, something he does every other week. He didn’t come home after 45 minutes. I called him- no answer. I called the pizza place and heard “There was something in the parking lot. The police are there and everyone is ok!” I was panicked - my husband S did not call me. I got in the car to see what was going on. I also thought. “Let’s see how he handles it.,
When I got there, he already was on his way home. Then I get the call over an hour after he had left/ “ I barely touched the guys car. And thought we could change numbers etc. The guy wanted to see S drivers lic and registration and insurance info. Apparently S was fumbling and couldn’t find the stuff right away. The guy he dinged said” you are not going anywhere, I have a gun. “ He then called the police. Police came and wrote a brief crash report saying very minor ding. Call your insurance company etc. “
The end result the guy hit an estimate 264.00 I paid it yesterday.
My husband is an excellent careful driver. The problem was processing and judgement around an accident.
I called the occupational Therapist who is doing his driving test Mar 13. She knows.
My husband is working on getting used to the idea of not driving but I’ll let the OT and doctor make the final verdict and declaration.
S was very sad when after the ding I told him this was a guardian angel’s way of warning that turned out minor. But who could even imagine a guy threatening about a gun. Turns out he was a nice guy who didn’t understand the confusion of an old guy.
Anyway. My husband said” you might as well find a new husband. “ I said, no I love you and I get a new husband every day. ☺️
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So he had the driving test this Wednesday and as expected he did not pass. He was sad and angry and felt I was conspiring against him by telling the OT about his recent mini accident. I also gave her the results of his Speech Therapist's evaluation which showed a decrease in executive functioning and spatial recognition-could not do mazes. She gave him a fair shot at it though. They went out driving for 45 minutes and she saw many signs that it is time to hang up the keys. S is doing okay but reflects back with and "if only" . But I think he gets it. We will try Uber and I am open to lots of driving as are friends who have offered to help. Just another downer for him. But I think he gets it. At least he got to drive until he was almost 77. I just have to hug him more.
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Oh Mary, How frightening for both of you! Give him a hug for me and tell him I said someone was definitely watching over him. I remember going through this with Mom - she went to her grave blaming me for taking her to "that mean guy" who explained after extensive testing that she could no longer drive - No dementia, but she had serious visual perception and reaction losses after a stroke.
We are having the "driving discussion" with my cousin's kids right now, and they just want to swoop in and take the keys. They don't comprehend how devastating it is to take away someone's wheels freedom to come and go, especially in a Texas suburb with no local transit service. I truly hope I talked them into a gentler approach.
Not looking forward to the day we have to surrender our keys - the time will come and I hope I have the wisdom to recognize it.
Sue