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Dealing with a spouse who has profound hearing loss.

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To "orm": Laura does say that her husband wears hearing aids. I don't know if they are enough. My husband is an engineer who has been wearing hearing aids for years and who really tried to keep up with the technology. Still, he struggles. His audiologist (he's had many) had never recommended the Roger microphone, but he ordered one after seeing it being used in the Hearing Loss Association meeting, and I am delighted to report that it has made an enormous difference in our lives. In his case, he had gotten so frustrated with the problems of communication that he actively avoided social interactions. That left ME as, quote "his only friend." Yikes.

There can be incredibly emotional stressors connected with hearing loss. Sometimes medication can help reduced the anxiety and frustration. Sadly, few therapists seem to be trained in dealing effectively with the situation. One thing that I've found helpful is the association's "Communication tips for people dealing with hearing loss." (It's wordy but I believe is being revised. And very practical!)

The Twin Cities chapter of HLAA has an extensive booklist of titles dealing with hearing loss. I've been working on a similar project with developing a list of films. This disability is "invisible" and very hard for everybody to deal with. Finding a group focused on topic has really been very helpful to me.

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Leeda5, yes, and I agree with you, and thank you for sharing your perspective.
My husband can hear "perfectly" when we are home in an always quiet environment. When in the car or especially a restaurant, he really struggles.
I now wear the strongest/loudest HA possible in my "better" ear, and have a cochlear implant in my other ear. The biggest difference between us, though, is that I'm an extrovert who wants always to be part of the conversation. My husband might be considered an extreme introvert and, like much like your husband, might be perfectly content to have me as HIS only friend. Also YIKES!!!
He doesn't care if he misses out on conversations, so he doesn't wear his HAs.
I sensed that Laura's husband, too, might be content, and not much interested in seeking a better outcome for his hearing. It sounded to me, though, that Laura really needs her husband's hearing to be better, and if there are options for him, I feel their relationship could possibly be much-improved by learning what those might be. It sounds to me like he just isn't motivated to improve the situation at this time, and that has to be frustrating for Laura.