Feelings on going “flat”.
I recently had a mammogram that turned into a biopsy and I just got the results that my right breast has invasive lobular cancer in the upper right quadrant. 6 years ago, I had a left breast mastectomy with reconstruction due to a slightly different invasive lobular cancer. So now I am contemplating whether or not I should just go flat on both sides and not go through reconstruction again on the right side - plus in another 4 years I would need to replace the left breast silicon insert - which would be another surgery. I’m wondering the physical, emotional and mental feelings/reactions that others have had once they went flat.
Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Breast Cancer Support Group.
I was going to mention Lands End too!
That is so good to know. I had no idea that knitted knockers even existed. I have been worried that the prosthesis would be too heavy and uncomfortable. Also thank you letting me know about Lands End. I have bought swimsuits from them before and really like them.
Wow - I love what you say everyday. So uplifting and positive. Thank you for sharing your feelings when you first saw yourself flat. That was very real and I’m sure extremely hard but glad to know that you are good with everything now. I’m sure I will also look like a pear since my stomach is also not flat (especially since menopause) but I am so grateful there are so many options to chose from.
I got fitted for bras that hold the prosthesis at a Mayo store. I tried different sizes until I was comfortable with a specific size. The prosthesis fits in an insert in the mastectomy bra so it never rubs against your skin. I ordered swimsuits that hold them too. They are not too heavy. My insurance covered them once I met my deductible. They last around five years. I got them around 5-6 months post surgery.I don’t recall having pain with them. I like my lightly padded bras or wearing nothing too. Hope this helps.
Thank you for sharing. So during the 5-6 months post surgery did you just wear a padded bra or nothing?
Nothing for the first 3 months then the small padded bra or nothing.
Hi I went flat immediately after the double mastectomy no reconstruction
My mother had the same cancer and had the first one removed …and 5 years later the 2nd one removed
I am sorry I did not have this info for her
So she could have gone flat.
I am very content with flat
I am not waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I wish you great peace with your decision!!
Maura
Thank you
I have posted on this topic before. I am 75 and had triple negative breast cancer with the ATM gene. Both were factors in my decision to do a double mastectomy. I have many friends, but did not tell any of them about my surgical decision. I am very open about my cancer and treatments, but consider this to be very personal. I have no regrets, I wear a bra with a very natural prosthesis and I look like my normal self. I lost my hair and I wear a wig and look like my normal self. I think it was the lowest risk decision for me and at my age, I just wanted to heal and get on with my life. I do believe that a mastectomy may get rid of the possibility of any escaping cells in the breast and any microscopic DCIS that might be forming. I also wanted to avoid radiation, as my tumor was over my heart area.
Very personal decision, best of luck.
I'm triple negative and BRCA+ and chose to go "flat" after my bilateral; when speaking with your surgeon please make sure you both have the same definition, even if it means taking in a picture to confirm you're both on the same page. I told my surgeon that I wanted to go "flat", I was 69 at the time and I had no desire to have any more surgery - even for reconstruction. But apparently our definitions of "flat" were different - I've been asked when do I plan to have reconstruction because of the excess skin that was left. After surgery I made my own "knitted knockers", since I knit and I was able to make them in several colors. I also wore sports bras with my knitted knockers until I got my prothesis. I usually go "flat" and only wear either the prothesis or "knitted knockers" when I want shaping for an event I'm attending.
The only issue with going "flat" was our differences in that definition. But I still have no desire to have any additional surgery for shaping that I can get when I feel I need it. If I had to do it over again I would take a picture to get confirmation we agree on the definition of "flat".