Good points! I want to add that medical emergencies and death can sometimes be chaotic. I compare it to having a baby. An expectant mother can have a clear birth plan but then have to go with the flow. (I was there when my granddaughter was born and it was quite off plan!) So I've told my family what I want, but also made it clear that I trust them and am fine if things don't exactly fit my wishes. I don't want to create guilt or a feeling of failure in anyone caring for me. Thanks again for the reminder about communication.