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I Would Love To Do BothIf These Thing's Taking His Keys And Pulling The Distributor Wire So The Vehicle Won't Run But My Dad Has Cameras Hooked Up To See Outside And He Is Contantly Watching Everyone When The Go Outside Where Our Vehicles Are Parked He Has Hallway Cameras And Other Property Cameras All Over The Place He Is Addicted To Watching Them In His Room Where His Big TV Monitor Sets Infront Of His Ved, His Keys Are With Him At All Time's Until He Looses Them In His Bedroom, I Can't Go In His Bedroom Anymore Because I Get Accussed Of Stealing Something From Him He Gets So Verbally Abusive With Me He Says He Will Call The Cops And Have Them Evict Me From a His House, That He Will Tell Them I'm Abusing Him So They Will Throw Me In Jail I Can't Take That Chance With Him He Plays The Victim Really Well Because He's 90 Year's Old Whom Are The Police Going To Believe And There's No Documentation Saying He Has LBD From A Doctor So I Have No Proof To Show The Police If My Dad Calls Them I Also Have No Where To Go & Don't Know Anyone Else But His Tenants Here In Houston Texas It's A Very Messed Up Situation And I Wish I Never Came Out Here To Take Care Of My Now, No Good Deed Goes Unpunished, Im Scared My Dad Will Crash zOur Only Transportation And He Kills Someone And Himself And I Really Do Love My Dad I Just Can't Take Care Of Him Anymore It's Getting To The Point Where My Mental Health Is Being Effected That's Why I'm Trying To Reach Out In My Community But No One Seems To Care I've Call All Kinds Of VA Charities Haven't Had No Call Backs Yet It's Been 2 Weeks Now

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Please consider calling Adult Protective Services & discussing the situation with them. They may need to step in & take over as this sounds like a situation that has moved way beyond what you can cope with. I would also immediately see about finding someplace else to live. It’s very difficult to step into a situation where the dementia has progressed so far. The strong-willed, independent personalities are difficult to deal with even if you have been involved all along. But stepping into the situation at late stage can be near impossible. I would also contact local law enforcement. The best way to diffuse his threats is to get one step ahead & be proactive.

I’m sorry VA hasn’t been an effective resource for you. But you might ask for referral to VA social worker to see if they can help.

I truly hope you can back out of the situation & get him the help he needs - including medications for his anxiety, delusions, etc.