Hi @lea46, welcome. I have added your discussion to the Caregivers support group as well as the ASD support group. There's a lot to unpack in your message and I'm sure you haven't shared the half of it.

First, I want to acknowledge that you've got a lot going on. You have dedicated yourself to caring for the people you love most in life. And you've also found a calling in substitute teaching that gives you the opportunity to share your gift of giving to others as well as give you the flexibility to continue to care for your husband and son.

Lately, however, the fine balance that you have orchestrated between caregiving, being a wife, mother and daughter-in-law has been put out of whack. Health issues have meant more appointments and even emergency situations. It's overwhelming and you're afraid that it may be unsafe - your husband isn't able to follow his medication plan, your son's medical situation needs attention and you have health issues of your own.

Clearly, you need someone by your side to help you out. I recommend starting with a social worker. I encourage to look up "My Help Navigator" https://myhelpnavigator.auntbertha.com/ It is a social care network that connects people and programs — making it easy for people to find social services in their communities. You will find free and low cost help in your area, including social work.

Here's the link to My Help Navigator: https://myhelpnavigator.auntbertha.com/