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First of all give yourself a hug and know that you are being a wonderful daughter trying to keep your mom clean and close to you. I cared for my mom for the last 8 years of her life when she was very ill and recently widowed. I was fortunate that she was very mentally coherent but I realized after she died that she had been very lonely and I often think I should have placed her in a care facility where she would get both physical and mental socialization on her level as well as routine physical assistance that was hard for me to provide. The 24 hr stress on me would have lessened and I could have offered her more when I visited as well as her having others around her daily.
Good luck, I will pray for you.
My husband has just been diagnosed with dementia and I am entering a life I fear greatly.
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You have been through a lot and yet you still offer hope and caring for others. That is what makes this group so special! Your point about having more people around makes great sense, and I had never looked at things from that perspective. My husband has been diagnosed with MCI, and though the recent evaluation showed “very little change” from 2 years ago, I notice changes daily. His sister passed away a year ago of Alzheimer’s so we are both very fearful of where we are headed. Your words spoke to me. Thank you, and be well.
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First, I sorry to hear that about your husband. It's so hard. I hope he processes slowly and lots of prayers for you both.
I agree with you about the social aspect of a home and I will consider that. I do have an aide and siblings that help, I'm certainly not doing this alone, but I don't think any of us are qualified : )