Hi to those who responded to my post. I am so glad I brought light to this dark that none of us would have chosen. All our stories are unique. My dear boy's dementia was late to arrive and slow to unravel his mind. Then for a fun aspect, he developed bowel cancer and had to have a colostomy. Nothing went as planned. It is a story too long and too demanding to recall in this forum. Patience has developed over the ten years in which we have come to come to grips with a new normal. We are more fortunate than many. We still can enjoy a joke, even as there is so much silence between us. -- If I sound positive, I am; but even those of us who are positive are vulnerable. Recently, I realized that a few depressing days had transformed into full-blown depression; it was horrible and scary. As you know, the pressure of being the sole decider of everything that was previously shared can wear one down. Working with my doctor, I am now on an anti-depressant, and fortunately, it is working. -- I stumbled on this forum when I was searching for information on the medication for depression. Without the energy or time to go to our community's caregivers' meetings, this forum came to me. It seems the universe will give you what you need if you take the time to do a Google search. When I wrote my original post, I felt a lightness I had not felt for some time. If I have written anything that helped, know that it is a two-way experience. -- GloRo