in reply to slapshotmary @slapshotmary, Dec 27, 2021 -getting a 2nd opinion.
I am with Honor Health system but can go anywhere-- I had a first opinion before getting my initial biopsy- and just the mammogram of a highly suspected large mass in my right breast to hear his recommendation for a double mastectomy for best look/option for clothing. It so blew me away that I started asking around on same question- how to get 2nd opinion without causing high irritation etc. It is not easy- especially for women to feel they are going to make waves. Remember- not only do you have a right to get a 2nd opinion- in 5 yrs- the initial doctor will be out of the picture and won't even remember who you are. You only have your body once and frankly, it is expected now in these times- thank goodness- that getting a 2nd opinion is not only a good idea but welcomed. If the same as the first it gives you more confidence and information and if different than the 1st- it gives you confirmation that you were right in questioning the initial results. The other is that despite the rush to get surgery - research shows that with most breast cancers - they are slow growing and there is NO RUSH. This was good because they found my surprise cancer in October (breast awareness month- not the best time to try and get action) I couldn't get in until November anywhere and when I did- I was looking at January for surgery. But it was all good.
Take your time and get that 2nd opinion and as many tests as necessary to confirm that opinion. The most important is that you really feel great about the doctor /team you will be working with. I researched /asked around and specifically was trying to get a 2nd opinion from a specific oncology surgeon and an oncologist/breast cancer specialty. I ended up at Mayo and could not have felt better about getting that 2nd opinion and the team at Mayo I ended up with. I wish you the best and support your courage to step out for yourself and don't feel ambushed.... it's your life.