I had my RALP in August of 22. My biopsy results were in May so I had 2 months to think about operation. Could be a blessing your husband's operation is in 8 days. I had no pain after operation, not even an aspirin required. The catheter is put in while you're knocked out. Didn't bother me a bit other than the idea of having a catheter. I just used the large cath bag and had it in a blue bucket when I was walking around the house. I had a towel over the bucket just not to be always looking at bag. Silly, but helpful. In hospital one night and was up and walking a couple of hours after operation. No pain. Had cath in 8 days. Removal was nothing. Fully continent after removal except for some dribbling maybe. I wore the pad underwear for 4 weeks but didn't need to. Surgeon on post op visit told me to stop wearing them actually. Definitely ask for Pelvic Floor physical therapy prescription after surgery so your husband knows he's doing Kegels properly. You have to wait 8 weeks or so before PT so you are healed up. Your husband may feel some shoulder pain after surgery. They say it's from the gas used during surgery. I think it's more from the fact they are pivoting you on the operating table for the robot arms. Anyhow your husband will be fine. Good luck. He'll experience tremendous relief after it's over. If he's still working tell him to take off as much time as possible on Medical. I was off work for 8 weeks. Rest is important for healing physically and mentally.