Major life altering crisis like the ones you have undergone should elicit some empathy. It is a shame. You know what? If the doctor disrespects you, has no empathy, I would look for another. I used to be of the mind, stick to one doctor. When I did that he failed me miserably. I had him for over 10 years. It was very hard to change but I did. It took me two before I found one exceptional who is very good WITH a bedside manner AND humor! It’s out there! I just had to have the courage to take action and change. When we have faith and trust in our health care providers, it makes a world of difference. Taking the power back emboldens. In the meantime having humanity and humility would improve things. Feel better.