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3 days ago · School age kids having behavioral problems in school in About Kids & Teens

I just saw your post and quickly read through some other posts from you.
You live in Trinidad?
I am a former teacher, principal and special education co-director, so I know a little bit about special education in the US.
Of course, not being from your country, I am at a loss for specifics.
Even though there are many programs for children with special needs, in the US, many parents are not aware of the ins and outs, as well as their rites.
At each and every meeting, the parent is given a booklet that spells it all out, but they don't take the time to read it.
That being said, I would like to suggest that you do some computer research to find out what the rules and regulations (or laws) say about special education.
You want to make sure you know as much as possible so that no one pulls the wall over your eyes and take advantage of your lack of knowledge.
You want to be sure that your child is getting all that is legally possible.
You might do a search…
"Special education laws in Trinidad", to start.

Good luck!!
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)

PS….You might want to do the same thing with regard to bullying in school. In the US, each and every school was mandated to have a plan in place to deal with such situations. Do they all obey the plans? No!

Sat, Sep 14 9:51am · Malignant melanoma in Cancer

Hi Barb,
So sorry about your Mets.
Yes, it is nasty!
My brother in law was what Sloan Kettering called a chronic cancer patient.
He began with a Melanoma on his leg.
It was large.
Soon after that he had another.
The surgeon explained that the cancer was a jumping bean.
Once open, it jumps to another site.
In all, he had 5 surgeries.
2 on the leg, 2 on the brain and 1 in the groin.
Sadly, they could not get it due to all the veins, muscles, etc.
Now this was over. 40 years ago.
He went to the Bahamas which was using immunotherapy with success.
He was too far gone.
Now they do have treatments, which the US did not have then.
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)

Tue, Sep 10 2:31am · Malignant melanoma in Cancer

Thank you!
I go for regular check ups and I am obsessed with checking my own body for anything that is unusual.
My problem is I am full of freckles and all sorts of marks.
Much of the damage comes from when we were children, not what we are doing today.
As a kid, I used to sit in the sun all summer long.
I used baby oil to 'burn', a sun visor and anything else that would help.
No such thing as sunblock or tanning beds those days.
I NEVER went in a tanning bed but I always wore flip flops and sandals in warm weather…..I live in Florida and still do, ALL wear long!
You are NEVER too young or old to get any kind of skin cancer!
I hope your wife gets a body check each year.
I was also told by the surgeon that all areas need to be checked, even the 'unseen, private parts'.
I also have my dentist do a thorough exam and well as my gyn and eye doctor.


Tue, Sep 10 1:08am · Lumbar Steroid Injection vs Facet Nerve Block in Bones, Joints & Muscles

Sorry you are living with the pain.
I know it only too well.
I really cannot add to the descriptions that @jmweissler provided.

Wishing you lots of luck!
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)

Tue, Sep 10 1:03am · Malignant melanoma in Cancer

Hi Joe!
Welcome! I am sorry to hear about the health issues you are having.
It was suggested I reach out to you about my journey.
My melanoma is not as large as the one you have.
During a pedicure, I found a teeny, tiny dot on my toe.
It was not discolored, raised or oddly shaped.
However, when I showed the doctor, she said that someone my age (60s), does not get new moles on my feet, so, so it was removed.
The surgeon went deep and wide to make sure he got everything.
He gave me a couple of stitches to close the wound.
My brother, on the other hand, had his melanoma on his back.
His surgeon, too, decided to stitch the wound which was quite long and deep..
Now this was many years ago so methods might have changed.
Wishing you the best of luck!
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)

Mon, Sep 2 2:30pm · Positive Experiences with Effexor in Depression & Anxiety

I honestly cannot remember just how long it took for the Effexor to work.
I do remember having a dull headache for some time and being very tired.
I know that it can take up to a couple months for it to work.
Also, it can take a while to find the right dosage.
Are you taking the regular or extended release Effexor?
That can also have an impact.
Bottom line is that everyone responds differently at different times.

Ronnie (GRANDMAr)

Mon, Sep 2 1:17pm · Positive Experiences with Effexor in Depression & Anxiety


Many people do not like the fact that we develop an 'addiction' (of sorts) to this particular drug.
Some people 'feel' different if they miss even one dose, I don't.
Some people are also frightened of the possible 'horrible' withdrawal when coming off Effexor (for whatever the reason).
In addition, there are some who feel that they DO NOT have a positive reaction to the drug.
The side effects bother them.
It does take the body time to 'get used' to Effexor.
During this time, you can get headaches, become very tired a lot of the time and feeling bloated.
There are other side effects, but they should ease in time.
Some women were put on Effexor to help them through menopause and they don't want to remain on the drug.
There are others who do not like the idea of the chemical changes to the brain.

As for me, I agree with you. If the Effexor works, why go off?
The drug works very well for me to keep my anxiety under wraps (except possibly under strenuous situations).
As I mentioned, I have no intention of coming off Effexor. I just want to take a dosage that keeps my anxiety under control and does not impact the way my head feels (like my brain is fuzzy). I
frankly do not know what I would be going through if I was not on the drug.
I do see myself being on it for the rest of my life.

Ronnie (GRANDMAr)

Sun, Sep 1 10:09pm · Positive Experiences with Effexor in Depression & Anxiety

First let me say that I haven't been on line for a long time so I really don't know your story.
When I saw my name mentioned, I thought I would jump on.

I've been on Effexor or more years than I can count.
When I began, I did very well with it.
I did so well, that my PCP suggested I come off.
Sadly, the schedule she gave me was not a good one and I had a horrible time.
I tried to get right back to it, but it was not working.
My then therapist suggested I see a psychiatrist to manage my meds.
I did.
I was told that once you come off, it takes about 6-9 months before you can go back on.
While I waited, I tried a few other meds for my anxiety, but nothing helped like the Effexor.
When the suggested time passed, I went back on.
I will admit, that it never worked as well as it did the first time, but it is still the best FOR ME!

Over the last few years, my dosage kept creeping up.
I did notice my memory going, gaining weight and being very sensitive.
However, after joining the Effexor group, I decided it was time for me to reduce my dosage to level I thought was more acceptable to ME!
My psychiatrist left the practice so I thought it would be a good time to try.

I was at 2-75 mg in the morning and evening (for a total of 300mg).
Last November I began the reduction.
Over the period of several months, I reduced my evening dosage in half (to 1-75mg tablet).
I felt the difference very quickly.
I felt like a cloud was lifted off my head.

I decided to wait to continue my reduction due to many reasons.
My goal, for now, is to reduce my morning dosage in the same way as I did my evening.
I want to get to 75 mg in the morning.
I will remain there for several months as I did the evening dosage and then decide what to do, based on how I feel.

I will admit that when I know I am going to face a very tense situation, like the 2 spinal surgeries I had, I will take another medication, along with the Effexor to keep me calm and balanced.
Thank goodness, I don't have surgeries that often.

Best of luck!
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)