I also take anti-depressant/anxiety meds. I have one kid with a very rare disease and there isn´t treatment for her. I am aware it is a degernerative disease and I am constantly talking to scientists and researching for some solution. I adittion she goes to a crazy amount of therapy and so on. I have only 2 kids and am going crazy… can´t imagine how hard it must be with 7 kids and 3 special kids.
What I can tell you is that all peolple that take care of a special need loved one should take antidepressive to cope with the stress, constant guilt and anxiety – this is what a friend (MD) told me. It is not a situation that therapy can solve because it is problem that won´t go away and (in my case) will probably get worst ….
I suffer with the probability of my child getting worst and that I don´t have the time or energy to research moreto focus on her cure because I need to work, I need to help her trive with her cognitive issues, I need to be a mother and I need to take care of my house.
I know I do the best I can to support her. What I do to remain sane is to enjoy every small oportunity of fun I have during the day. In order to do that, I don´t care about organizing and cleaning up the mess of the house while I am playing with them. After each game I ask them to help me out (we sing a song toguether) and we do toguether what they can and are up to. I finish cleaning up after they go to sleep.
I really didn´t have much time to myself and I beliave that is the main problem.
So, in 2016 I changed that. I took part in a support group for mothers that have children in need (just 6 of us) and 1 psychologist and 1 other professional that is in charge of school inclusion. It is great to share and learn with each other. and the professionals help us with information and facilitating the discussion. It is once a week at lunch time. My husband has to stay with them for one hour per week so I can do it. I also downloaded an app called headspace and I have 10 minutes before I go to sllep tio use it and meditate. It helped me bunches. Finally, I stopped watching TV (I almost never had time to watch anything anyways) and gave myself half an hour before I go to sleep to read a book. When I don´t drop dead after putting kids to sleep and cleaning up the house I force myself to read and relax. It is good because for those 30 minutes my mind can wonder off. I have also bought a bike. I didn´t find time to use it yet, but want to try using it to get to work at least twice a day. I do beliave finding time for our selves if the key….
Love Fernanda (Brazil)