I’m not doing a great job of facing the fears of losing the security of the marriage benefits ie his health insurance and his pension if/when my ex predeceases me. We’ve been separated for several years and he needs to complete the separation with the divorce, I get that. My future should not seem so scary after all the trial by fire I’ve been through! I’m 61, on disability and have a meaningful life. I’d love to hear other’s experiences, strengths and hopes.