China, the one thing I will tell you is that anytime anyone DEMANDS from you instead of WALKING WITH YOU that is a person who will drag you down. It has taken me a long time to consider that person extra baggage. ANYONE WHO IS TRULY a friend will not expect anything from you. A true friend might encourage you to get out, but will not be upset if you don’t. A true friend will want you by her side, but will not be angry if you leave. A true friend wants you happy, even if it means they are left a little sad! What you have to do is tell this friend what you expect of her if she is to be your friend. I KNOW. I have fought this battle with family and friends for 40 years and finally within the last year, I started letting go. I have let anyone go that pulls me down, hurts me, belittles me or does anything that does not help be become stronger or heal. I have not done anything in a way that I would have to apologize for my actions. With some family members, I actually explained to them how they were hurting me, and once I deleted them from Facebook, they called and left voice mails on my phone apologizing for their behavior, however it was too late for them to have me back in their lives. I WAS ALREADY FEELING GOOD ABOUT MY DECISIONS. I feel better standing up to family, my husband, my son, and friends now. I love people, I don’t and won’t argue, but I will discuss how I feel and what I expect in a relationship and give the person a chance to accept me or leave now. It’s really not complicated at all. It took awhile to get the nerve, but being hurt all the time was so painful. I have made it clear that my pain is real and that anyone (including physicians) needs to let me know up front if they believe in me…if not…walk away…l have no time to waste on anyone. My life is a lot less complicated, because you/we/me can let others make us sick or allow others to control how we feel about ourselves. BE STRONG, take a long look at yourself, and decide you are STRONG and you can face this world and anyone in it. You can do it alone or with family or without! It is nice to have family, but family may not always be around. If you love where you are, but are only missing your mom (I lived in California without my mom for two years, had a baby that she didn’t see…all of this made me stronger), go visit when you can, but see if getting out and enjoying life can make you a stronger you!!! Good luck!