Not having marriage problems (yet) but I can feel your pain with the rest. Plus I’m a teacher, which is fast replacing fireman as the most stressful job. I don’t take anything, which may be stupid for my health, but I can’t be in a fog with a room full of adolescent students. I wish I had some amazing insight to share, but I don’t. (I took a pottery class recently and for one night I was a different person.) All I can really say is I sympathize.