Hey there, I was only 18 when I got sick and had been dating my boyfriend for 6 months at the time. I had chemotherapy and radiation and my body changed a lot and I was bald and had very low self esteem. We both kept a journal and it seemed to help. I tried to keep things normal as they were before and never be sorry for myself or have a pity party. Seven years later we are still together and now getting married. There were times where I thought we were not going to make it because he seemed, “checked out” but I honestly think he did not know how to deal with it any other way. They have to check out a little bit so they can stay sane in some situations. Chemotherapy and all of the drugs sometimes made me into a very angry bitter person, and unfortunately we take most of that anger out on the people we are closest to because we know they will not leave us. It does take a toll on them over time, so we need to be careful about that. It is a very normal thing thing for family members to do.