See a Rhumy. Sjogrens and many other Autoimmune illness can cause the symptoms. Sjogrens is generally thought of as dry eyes/mouth. often blown off by providers. IT can affect every organ in your body. I was dx with Sjogrens, Raynauds, Thryroiditis, ?lupus, RA and ……Bcell Lymphoma. ALL at once! (The Rituxan infusions where difficult, but post treatment what a world of difference, a gift. But, they wear off and long term affects are just as frightening.)Yet for 4 years I went and complained fo body aches that moved around. Chronic neck pain (lesion was growing around the base of my neck and I was told over and over it was from chronic inflammation….cancer. Dry eyes, mouth, skin, overwhelming fatigue, sleep disturbances (waking achey, have to move) random nausea, hightened and then decreased sence of smell. One can view it as a nightmare.. and it was and has been in MANY ways BUT…during this time I increased fish oil, flax oil, consumed large quantities of water, and still do. I reviewed my diet and although I have always been conscious of good nutrition made changes anyway to see if these helped. They have. Little or no sugar, aside from natural occuring in fruits and juices etc. (more difficult that it sounds…sugar is in everything!) I was an avid dairy lover…just fermented now (yogurt and keifer daily) sometimes soft cheese like goats, feta etc. Now am trying a curtailed gluten consumtion and don’t see much additional change, but will keep at for awhile longer.
The only med I take is xanax in the pm for a 6 hour straight sleep period. Occ have to nap in the day time. I exercise on good days, cause when the bad days hit, not much gets done….the thing is they are not as common as frequent as they where although they are unpredictable at best and this is fustrating…..but learning to go with the flow and not feel like a slug…it is what it is.
It is hard to make changes, comfort measures if you will, they take effort, energy and commitment…not easy when you are so fatigued/fogged.
You sound like a commited partner, I am lucky to have this also and between the two of you hopefully you will find a better spot. Meds are not always the anwser…I have opted so far not to take any DMR’s etc. Nothing will eradicate these ills but comfort measures and some lifestyle changes go a long way…And alternative therapies may also help….massage etc, etc.
Good Luck to you both.