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Oct 15, 2011 · Women's sexual health in Women's Health

Why don’t you ask your wife if there is anything you can do to ease her pain. If she knows how you feel maybe she will get help. I doubt she is complaining for reasons other than she is having physical ailments. I like this Mayo Clinic website for evaluating different ailments and researching treatments.

I’m reading this book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by John Gottman, PhD. Communication appears to be the biggest problem all married people have in common!

Oct 15, 2011 · Depression & anxiety, problems with finances, work and marriage in Depression & Anxiety

Great advice! I am going through similar problems right now and am finding that a psychologist is very helpful. I’ve done individual and marriage counseling and think that it is much better than trying to cope on my own. My husband has been very ill, recuperating from major surgery in the past six months and now suffering from an autoimmune disorder. His personality has changed alot over the past few years and I have been trying to cope on my own. Once I realized that I was becoming further depressed because of his behavior, I sought help for me and it was the best thing I could have done. Things are better but there is alot of improvement needed. It is good to have hope again and to realize that taking babysteps is necessary in the process. Being patient with myself and my spouse is helpful also.

Oct 15, 2011 · Can anyone tell me what they did to clear up UTI infection in Just Want to Talk

Don’t you need to take an antibiotic to get rid of the infection? I think that’s what was prescribed for me after a catheter caused a UTI. Drinking lots of straight cranberry juice should help too.

Oct 15, 2011 · Loving someone with a personality disorder in Mental Health

When I read your post just now I found it quite interesting. I think alot of people have personality disorders and few are diagnosed as such. Most people aren’t willing to accept that there is something not ‘quite right’ about themselves and they prefer to live in denial. That does not seem to be so good for those that love them and would like to have a more intimate relationship.

If I were you, I’d keep talking to your psychologist about the situation and determine what is best for your own mental health. Unfortunately, it does not sound like this man is going to change on his own and you will need to change some things for yourself. Establishing a good set of boundaries between you and this man might be a good place to start. If you can’t handle the emotional torture, then stay out of the bedroom. If you can compartmentalize sex in your head and just ‘do it’ and not worry about his behavior afterward, then do.

Most women want more than just the physical aspects of it. A man that can’t handle any emotional intimacy is mentally crippled, in my opinion. He isn’t going to go back to being Mr. Honeymoon again because that phase of your relationship is over. Just accept him the way he is and figure out what you want and find your way. A man that withdraws and doesn’t say a word for ‘weeks’ is selfish and abusive. Obviously, he knows he has issues and if he isn’t willing to do the work with the psychologist to help himself learn to be the man you need, then he probably doesn’t love you. I don’t think having sex with someone like that is healthy for you.