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Tue, Jan 14 11:17am · I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer in Cancer

Thanks for asking, no, nothing new except maybe a bit overwhelmed. He had surgery last week. They removed 1/2 the pancreas plus spleen and came home Saturday. He just wanted to rest but his mother died suddenly the next day which involved some minor travel. He’s now staying with family for the time being. My support is limited since I have to work full time; I do what I can. The pathology results from last week’s surgery will be reviewed on Thursday. He’s nervous about this meeting since his experience, to date, has been a series of bad news. He’s understandably irritable and depressed but intermittently lashes out at me. I’d be really interested in the medical perspective regarding multiple and almost simultaneous cancers. My understanding is that my partner’s kidney and pancreatic cancer were not the same cancer, whereas the lung biopsy results were the same (stage IV) type of cancer as the kidney cancer. Retreading this, it’s quite a discouraging conundrum of medical mountains.

Thanks everyone for your concern and support 🙏.
Monroe

Dec 26, 2019 · I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer in Cancer

Dear Merry,
Thanks for your kind response. I agree that it would be helpful to have my boyfriend sign up with connect. However, that being said, I think it may be premature for him to consider; hopefully it will be something for him to consider in the future. Currently, everything, down to the smallest minutia seems to overwhelm and irritate him; I proceed cautiously and take my cues from him. If he wants to talk I try to make sure my listening antenna are fully tuned in to validate his frustration and worries.
I’m at the hospital with him today while they do the lung biopsies. I am grateful for his team of medical providers, their rapid response and the generous support provided by yourself through Connect. I will keep you posted.

Monroe

Dec 25, 2019 · I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer in Cancer

Dear Merry,
Thanks so much for your helpful response. All three of the cancers are new since the end of June of this year. The first sign was blood in his urine, which was followed by the removal of his kidney; surgery for the pancreatic lesion will be in January. The kidney and the pancreatic cancers are not the same. The lung biopsy is now scheduled to verify the status of the lung nodules. Fortunately, his physicians collaborate and review his care as a team and I feel he is receiving excellent care.

It’s easy for me to be quiet and just listen, but sometimes he likes to be distracted by the conversation of others. Being a consummate talker is hard for me, I’m not a big talker. He says things like he feels like a bomb is inside of him. I tell him that it makes sense he’d feel that way, because I’m sure I’d feel the same. I don’t know what I would do in his shoes. He also said he’s tired of talking about cancer things, explaining test results especially. I tell him he can talk or not talk about whatever he wants, but that I’ll support him the best I can.

Your good words have really been a wonderful guide and support and I can’t thank you enough. Wishing you and your family a wonderful Holiday and a healthy New Year !

Monroe

Dec 25, 2019 · I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer in Cancer

Dear Remi,
Thank you for your kind and gracious reply; it is so appreciated. Wishing you and your family the best for the Holidays !
Monroe

Dec 25, 2019 · I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer in Cancer

that you have cancer is stressful. However, the information needs to be clearly given to you to reduce the stressors related to any ambiguous information provided to you.

Dec 25, 2019 · I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer in Cancer

Your physicians need to communicate among themselves to provide a coherent and consistent message to you. My boyfriend, with the potential three cancers (kidney, pancreas and lung) has MDs who are collaborating and reviewing my boyfriend’s medical status as a team, which includes the surgeon, radiologist, oncologist as well as the urologist. You need a team that can provide you with a clear and consistent message. Hearing

Dec 22, 2019 · I've had 3 cancers: Thyroid cancer, Lung Cancer and Breast Cancer in Cancer

I am new to this forum and cancer support. I joined this group, not for myself, but for my boyfriend. I'd appreciate guidelines for how to be supportive to him, what to say, what not to say. He is currently fully functional, he's still working. He had his kidney removed in August and is scheduled to have surgery on his pancreas to remove a small cancer lesion in January. The kidney and the pancreatic cancers are not the same type of cancer. Now they have discovered nodules and a lesion on his lung; a PET scan was completed last week with a potential biopsy, pending the results of the PET scan. He's understandably afraid. His younger sister died last year; cancer seems to run in the family. I want to be supportive, but I don't know what to say. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks so much !