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Jun 12, 2019 · ~ Dialectical Skills ~ in Depression & Anxiety

Thanks, Ginger! Since I am a high-functioning person on the autism spectrum, and as a result, I've had social anxiety all my life, I've had counseling off and on for 30 years. The meds are more recent – I think I started those in 2012.

I will start my own thread, because this is amberpep's thread.

The short answer to "please tell us how helping a spouse with BPD affects your day-to-day living, both as an individual and as a couple?"

My spouse has multiple diagnoses, both Borderline Personality Disorder and Gender Dysmorphia (transgender). His and our decline was slow. He self-medicated with drinking, and was sort of functional for quite a while, keeping a job. The thing is, all he did was work, and some cooking. I did everything else. Raised our autistic son, worked part time, most chores, paid bills, made and kept track of appointments, took care of our vehicles, etc.

( I'll continue this later – writing this is harder than I thought.)

Jun 12, 2019 · Sleep Insomnia + Depression + Nausea and Lightheadness in Depression & Anxiety

I echo the idea that she needs her meds checked and probably changed. Those symptoms indicate what she's on isn't helping her and might be hurting her.

Jun 12, 2019 · Multivitamins and Antidepressants/psychotics ? in Depression & Anxiety

SSRI veteran here – effexor gives me panic attacks, and I just switched off from lexapro to zoloft. This isn't fun at all, and I hope you find something that works.

I do take multivitamins, and haven't had much of a problem with it. I HIGHLY recommend you consult with a registered dietitian. In my experience with depression and food, I've found that eating as healthy as I possibly could helps my mood as well. Fresh or frozen veggies and fruits, lean meats, nuts, fish, and whole grain or high fiber carbohydrates. Avoid sugar and white flour, because those cause insulin spikes. (Edit: Make it a rare treat.) That's an initial short burst of energy, then feeling sad and tired as blood sugar drops.

You and she don't have to eat anything you don't like. Figure out what you do like that's nutritious. When you're ready to try new foods, you'll have fun enjoying different flavors!

Again, I encourage seeing a registered dietician. Be careful, there are a lot of unqualified 'nutritionists' out there, working without any medical licensing. Also, I'd discourage a keto diet, since the body needs some carbohydrates to make seratonin.

Jun 11, 2019 · ~ Dialectical Skills ~ in Depression & Anxiety

Hello @amberpep! My spouse has BPD, and he misplaces and loses important items all the time! So you're not the only person who loses keys, phones, etc.

I'm currently in counseling, and doing that 'deep work' too. It hurts, and is exhausting, but I need to do it if I'm going to make any progress in recovering from my mental sickness.

I have anxiety, and I'm learning that reframing concerns can reduce my anxiety. For example, I've been struggling with my weight, and ashamed of my body, my whole life. The popular 'body positivity' – loving my body – concept is too much of a mental leap for me, and it winds up my anxiety. Body neutrality, which removes the emotional values of love and hate and lowers the stakes, is something I can accept. Thinking of my body as a vehicle for my mind, and that it requires careful maintenance to function properly, is a step towards unconditional acceptance.

DBT works!