A behavioral therapist might suggest exposure therapy, which you can read about, make an appointment and emphasize the havoc pertaining to work, and transportation of children. Very positive to speak up, and all those tears are a credit to your perseverance. Driving is a privilege; you are setting a great example of that and I’m so glad I saw your posts. My Mother never addressed her fear of driving and missed countless opportunities to participate in her children’s activities. I remember delivering Girl Scout cookies in a taxi, at the age of nine! We lived in the country so I was ashamed of my embarrassment, but grateful for my Fathers taxi cab solution. Soon she could no longer leave our property. She never sought help. I admire your fortitude.