Becky, Volunteer Mentor (@becsbuddy)

@justamanz028 Just wondering if you’ve been able to see a doctor yet. As a mother of two sons, I really worry about you—can you get in touch, please?

@confidence234 is your girlfriend under the care of a cancer doctor and surgeon? Stage 1 cancer is very treatable but only if treatment is started early. Please take your girlfriend to a doctor as soon as you can. The doctor can also help with her diet and sleep problems.
We all care for you two, but you need to get her the care she needs. Can you do that?

Morning @lilypaws . I’m glad you’re doing so well with your recovery! No time to waste! I too my dog out today and we actually had a good walk even if we had to stop at every blade of grass!. I love to listen to the birds and keep looking for creatures in the undergrowth. Never found any, thank heavens!

@arreyprotus Since none of us are medical people, we can’t interpret these forms that you sent. I’m so sorry. We can only hope to guide you as you go along this journey with your mother.
You might ask her doctor what his goals of treatment are. Does he think that a cure is possible?
What has your mom said about the treatment? Does she have any quality to her life? Does she/you/your brothers want her to live for a long time yet?

You have the support and love of everyone on MayoClinicConnect as you work you way through this. Becky

Oh, @arreyprotus , just when we thought things were looking up. Is your mom getting enough fluids? Dehydration can easily cause weakness. She still gets feedings through a tube, right? And how much water or liquids does she get? And, I’m sure it is hot in Cameroon, which doesn’t help.
I know that cancer is scary for everyone, especially your mom. Have you and your siblings sat down with your mom and talked about all this? This may be her way of telling you that she is tired and can’t go on. I know that sounds harsh, but I have seen it too many times. I know that you’ll do the best you can for her and you’ll always remember her. She know that, too. She has reared wonderful children who are now fine young adults. Do your best @arreyprotus, but talk to your mom. Becky

@lilypaws I’m glad you can join our virtual walks! And, after having such major surgery! I’m doing better at walking after a short hiatus. Went out to Twin Lakes , a paradise for dogs, near our house. Walking in the mornings is so wonderful!

Happy Sunday to you, also @arreyprotus ! So happy to hear that your mom is home again. Take care of yourself and your mom. Becky

Hello, @amberpep . I am very glad to hear that your friends bladder cancer has not spread. That’s really good news. Is she doing alright with the chemo?
I found this information on bladder removal. Recovery can take awhile since it’s major surgery. She can expect to remain in the hospital for 4-5 days and during this time she’ll learn how to care for the ureterostomy. The hospital will probably set up for homecare. Nurses will come to the house and continue to teach her.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/cystectomy/about/pac-20385108

You can be invaluable help to her by listening and supporting her. Talk about all the fun things going on and forget the current news. Facebook is a great way to communicate. You have sounded so positive lately that I know you’ll be good for her!
Please feel free to ask us more question. Becky