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3 days ago · Have you ever had hiccups with or after chemotherapy? in Cancer: Managing Symptoms

My husband just began chemo, has had two cycles of mFolfirinox, and has had hiccups for the first several days after both infusions. They are uncomfortable for him and irritating for me. They think the cause is the Dexamethasone pre-med. He’s hiccuping right now as I type this!

Tue, Nov 12 10:13pm · Metastasized colon cancer: At a loss..what is next? in Caregivers

How nice to know someone is checking in on me. My husband has his second chemotherapy tomorrow. His labs were drawn today so we know they’re OK. He gets an infusion that lasts 4-6 hours, then goes home with a portable pump for 46 hours, then back to hospitalist infusion center to get disconnected, Neulasta injection and IV fluids. Back again the next day for another bag of fluids. First session he did have nausea and vomited during the infusion but they’ll add to his pre-meds this time. We’re hanging in there!

Sat, Nov 2 9:33am · The End: When caregiving ends, my husband passed away in Caregivers

Thank you for your words. Especially for those of us who are at the beginning of our caregiving journeys. Sometimes I think I may lose myself in this. I’m trying to figure out how to create a new life during this time that my husband is going through recovery from surgery and treatment for pancreatic cancer. I appreciate your words. If it feels right to you, I would be interested in reading updates from you, how you catch up on all that needs to be done and how you recreate your life.

Sun, Oct 27 10:57am · Metastasized colon cancer: At a loss..what is next? in Caregivers

I appreciated your comment about scripting out. And also I get that you don’t consider it awfulizing the situation. In my life with anxiety I know I used to catastrophize. On occasion I still do but it is an entirely different feeling than what you call scripting out. When I script in my mind, I prepare calmly, I gain strength knowing I can deal with whatever comes. On the other hand catastrophzing is a state of panic, fear and weakness. We are all learning about anticipatory grief. Something in that order would happen when my military husband would be nearing periods of deployment. The stress would eat on both of us to the point we would both just want it to happen and get it over with. Anticipation was worse than the reality of separation. The anticipation we live with in probable terminal illness hollows us out. I worry about losing myself.

Thu, Oct 10 7:15am · Emotional health after cancer in Cancer

Oh, thank you. I will.

Thu, Oct 10 7:08am · Emotional health after cancer in Cancer

I was very interested in your thoughtful post. Today we go to the cancer center for the very first time for my husbands pancreatic cancer. I will pay very close attention.

Tue, Oct 1 8:33pm · Metastasized colon cancer: At a loss..what is next? in Caregivers

Hi @lah. Well, we haven’t been home, but no snow where we live, But wow! Out West! We’ve been at Mayo Clinic for post op appt for my husband and to meet with oncology. They want to get him set up to start chemo ASAP but they discovered a pocket of fluid in the abdomen on CT so now he’s on two weeks of antibiotics. After that we have another checkup at Mayo. He’ll be having chemo at the hospital at home eventually. Good Luck at your appt. my first one was pretty much just an assessment, lots of questions. Know this, if you don’t click with the first therapist, don’t give up. Try another but give it a little time first before you do.

Thu, Sep 26 2:14pm · Who will care for us as we age? in Caregivers

@georgette this is something I think about a lot. Our families may be smaller than they once were and members are scattered across the globe. There is often no one to help other than friends or neighbors and if you’re like me, there is only so much you want to or can impose on them. And married or not, one of the spouses will one day be alone and in the same position a single person is.