@becsbuddy, it was so nice to see your note. As I have written before, a year ago my husband was in the hospital recovering from quadruple cardiac bypass, some complications and a two week hospital stay. Then in January he had a two week hospitalization for some persistent GI issues. During that time scans revealed he had cysts in the head of pancreas, and he was referred to a local specialist who in turn referred us to Mayo Rochester. At that same time my 93 year old mother, who depends on me for help in order to maintain living on her own in an apartment, was recovering from her own hospital stay. We have been on a roller coaster, first expecting a cancer diagnosis for my husband, then after a biopsy thinking perhaps he would escape the diagnosis ,but after a Pancreaticoduodenectomy/Whipple surgery on August 28 getting the news that in fact he had pancreatic cancer arising from an IPMN cyst. We’re home but it’s slow going, the hardest being extreme fatigue. He isn’t able to walk as much as I know would be good for his recovery. I worry that he will not recover to the degree necessary to begin the gold standard chemo at the earliest possible time. Every day brings a new problem for me to solve. And I’ve had a couple bad night’s sleep because my husband’s CPAP machine has been acting up and making noise that awakens me. Today I’m running on three hours sleep. I have done all that I know to gather a support system around me and did meet with a therapist this week for an initial assessment in an attempt to do some self care. I have received support from women in an organization I belong to but have no relatives living nearby who could help. On the one hand, I think I’m doing well considering the circumstances , but on the other hand I recognize that if I saw someone else dealing with what I currently am, I would be considered about their wellbeing.