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Fri, Mar 1 9:37am · I badly need your help!! Father refusing to drink water in Caregivers

Virginiatc, I am so sorry that you and your husband must deal with the ravages of Alzheimer's. May you find the strength you need to deal with the changes and challenges ahead of you.

Thu, Feb 28 7:02am · I badly need your help!! Father refusing to drink water in Caregivers

My mother-in-law had End Stage Renal Disease and was on dialysis for several years. Her health deteriorated to the point that she had to be placed in a nursing home. She had decided that she did not want to live to the year 2000 so shortly after Thanksgiving 1999 she began refusing to go to dialysis. The doctor and staff were able to talk her out of that but just before Christmas she refused dialysis and all medications including pain meds. She had osteoporosis as well.
When the nursing home staff notified us of her refusal of all treatments, I paid her a visit and had a little heart to heart. I asked her if this was what she really wanted and was she fully aware that she would suffer a very painful death. She said she was tired of all of it and believed that if she refused her medications she had to refuse her pain meds as well. I asked if she had thought about her children and grandchildren and how it would affect them to watch her die a slow painful death and especially at Christmas time. She said she had not thought about that and she agreed to wait a few days until after Christmas to discontinue her medications and dialysis. I understood her desire to end her pain but wanted her to have options available. I left the nursing home and called Hospice for assistance. I asked Hospice to visit her and talk with her about options.
Hospice went to the nursing home and immediately began working with her and the staff to proceed with her end of life plans without talking with her first. That didn't sit well with me but that's another story. My mother-in-law was relieved to learn that she didn't have to give up her pain medications just because she refused all other treatments. As a result, she was able to spend her last days being comfortable instead of in agony. She past peacefully on January 9, 2000.
The moral of the story is that as caregivers we can get so wrapped up in doing what the doctors want without listening to what our loved one wants. At the same time our "patients" may not be looking at all the consequences of refusing to follow doctors' orders. If at all possible we need to have open and honest conversations with our loved ones about what they want. They may be afraid to discuss their end of life plans because they don't want to hut us.
I was the caregiver for my father, mother-in-law and mother. It is very hard to become the "parent" of a parent.

Thu, Feb 21 6:35am · Side Effects of Metoprolol? in Heart & Blood Health

I also had problems with swelling in the feet and legs with amlodopiene. I stopped taking it because the swelling was so bad I had trouble walking. My blood pressure was below the current 120/80 rate. I still take Micardis and metprolol and have been on them for many years.

Tue, Feb 19 6:42am · Tests normal, yet sharp chest pain – Heart Problems? in Heart & Blood Health

Hi, I am sorry you are dealing with this at your age. It is very scary. Since you have already had an ultrasound done on your heart, the only other test is a heart catherterization. Based on all your tests so far, I don't think that will give you any answers.

My oldest son was born with a heart defect and until he could have a heart cath done doctors could only guess at what was wrong. He was presenting with a heart murmur which the cardiologists thought indicated that the hole between the chambers of his heart didn't close at birth. We were given signs to look for that indicated he was in trouble and needed immediate air flight to the hospital. One of these was dropping to a squat for no apparent reason. This action reduces the pressure on the heart and in young children is an automatic response. The heart cath showed that his problem was actually a problem with the pulmonary artery, he had a narrowing of the artery below the pulmonary valve which meant blood flow from the valve was slowed down. He is now 41 years old and does anything he wants to do.

I commend you for eating well and adhering to your restrictions. As for exercise, instead of trying to jog, start off slow with a walk at a normal pace. When you feel discomfort beginning, stop and rest then return home. Gradually work up to longer distances without discomfort before you try jogging or running. Please see a therapist to help with the emotional issues. This has been going on for such a long time that you may be inadvertently experiencing anxiety because you are on alert 24/7 for something to happen. Therapy can help with this. I hope you find the answers soon. Don't give up, keep asking questions. If you are not already doing so, you might want to consider keeping a journal of your symptoms recording the time of day and what your were doing when it happens and how long it took to stop. Also record anything that you do that helps relieve the symptoms.

Thu, Feb 7 8:05am · Left Frontal Meningioma surgery recovery in Brain Tumor

@mrector My doctor said that the pain must be neurological and sent me to a neurologist. The neurologist just gave me pain pills and sent me on my way. My tumor had tentacles some of which could not be removed because of their location. I had annual MRIs to check the status of the remnants for five years. During that time another tumor was found on the top of the frontal lobe. So far it has not grown any at all.

Thu, Feb 7 7:48am · Left Frontal Meningioma surgery recovery in Brain Tumor

I had my surgery in 2009. Recovery was quick. I left the hospital ahead of schedule and returned to work ahead of schedule. My issues came after the recovery period. It started with pain near the incision site. This progressed to problems with speech and memory with the memory getting worse as time progressed. I would be happy to answer any questions you might have. Good luck with your recovery.

Sat, Feb 2 9:53am · Elevated parathyroid hormone (PTH) in Diabetes/Endocrine System

I have not had a follow up bone density test yet. I will have one in a few months. I will be interested in seeing if it increases.@ I have been on Fosamax since my diagnosis of osteopenia. I have not had any problems with the Fosamax so far. I generally don't have reactions to medications with the exception of statin drugs and Mobic. I'm sorry to hear about your husband's reaction to Cipro.

Fri, Feb 1 6:57pm · Elevated parathyroid hormone (PTH) in Diabetes/Endocrine System

Yes, I had severe, debilitating bone pain in my hips mostly. It had gotten so bad that I could barely walk. Once I had my surgery that pain was gone. The surgery did not help with the muscle, tendon and joint pain from fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease and osteopenia.