@mothergoose76 @hopeful33250 This is too weird- I generally only follow the lung groups, since I'm a lung cancer survivor. But, when I opened the weekly digest and Addiction & Recovery came up first it was like a sign that since I missed my 11am Zoom meeting I should peek in here. And, the first thing I read was about you looking along the path of your walk, which really spoke to me, so thank you! Next, I opened this because I too, have a similarly close person and issue. And, same as you, suggesting a meeting only makes it worse. (Meanwhile, I really came away from the article feeling like it was written by someone with a psych degree but not our problem.) The only thing I've found helpful is to involve another common friend- if geographically possible, to meet for a walk or sit outside to visit. It puts the balance back on our side, at least long enough to hopefully get her to shift her perspective for the moment or to better evaluate our own.