Merry, I've been fortunate that no one has reacted in a negative manner. I do think there have been some who have done the avoidance thing, but I know I've been that way with people because I've been unsure what to say. I actually think everyone's habit of texting has helped, because it has made it a bit less uncomfortable for people to check in that way when they're unsure. (And, once the ice is broken it's easier for one or the other to say "I'll call you now.") But, if you're feeling isolated do you have the access/ability to get to something like the Livestrong programs offered at some YMCAs (or, if not, maybe a nearby SilverSneakers program? ) I've found the structure along with the good-naturedness of the people who attend classes like this to be very uplifting, even if I don't exchange more than a few pleasantries with a neighboring participant before or after. When I was recuperating from surgery my regular instructor suggested the Silver Sneakers classes and only the instructor knew why I was attending. Once my surgery healed and then I wrapped up chemo my PA at Mayo said cardio was the best thing I could do for my lungs, so I got more conscientious about finding classes. For the first time in my life instead of looking for reasons to not go I'm depending on them for both the physical and mental lift, and the break from responsibilities and sometimes life's aggravations (both self-inflicted and otherwise).