I’m so glad to be of some help. If you have the gift of cooking, then yes, it sounds like an excellent idea to find people who need that.
Something I forgot to put into the post was (and let’s face it, it was already WAY too long!): Negative thoughts – I’m an expert on these. You give me any situation and although on the surface I’ll be positive, underneath and in my head are all sorts of really negative thoughts and ‘what if’ situations being churned around. I made up my mind that I was not going to be like that anymore (it’s only taken me nearly 60 years to reach this stage……). So, each time a negative thought starts to pop into my head, I immediately say ‘STOP’, either out loud if I’m on my own, or in my head if I’m in company (no-one wants to be considered weird do they?) . It takes a while to get into the habit but I was determined to start turning my life around and it has honestly made a huge difference, along with all the other suggestions. I feel much more positive (hopefully that WILL continue – heck no, that wasn’t positive enough – I KNOW it will continue – see what I did there, using a more positive attitude!) and my Mum seems more relaxed too because I am not so strung out. I much prefer living my life like this than the old me. So all you lovely people out there: my prayer for all of you is that you have the best Christmas you’ve had for a long time remembering what Christmas is REALLY about, that HE came because HE loves us so much! If HE loves you that much, then you can love yourself too and start living the life you should have. Love to everyone from Wales (UK)! x