A pillow with a hole is a big help, but you don't have to order one. I just bought a contour memory foam pillow and cut about a 6 inch hole in the center. As long as I keep my ears over the hole, I don't have the pain. I've also successfully used a shredded memory foam pillow that was lightly packed enough to kind of make a well in the center. Also, if you can find a way to sleep at a side angle instead of directly on your side – I can do it on the couch or with a body pillow that can't move away from me – it keeps the amount of direct pressure less and I'm less likely to wake up in pain. I would love to find a 'cure", but until then at least I can sleep through the night most of the time.