First Name

Last Name

Yorba Linda


Country of Residence

Postal/Zip Code

Health Interests
Chronic pain, Healthy Aging, Hormonal and metabolic disorders, Mental health disorders, Women's health issues

Posts (674)

Mar 1, 2019 · Gratitude Discussion Group in Just Want to Talk

Everyone, sorry I've been absent so much these days. I've just gotten myself so involved locally and am doing so many "things" it's hard for me to make sure I do everything. I'm just now to the point of realizing that I must schedule time for the most important things or they will slip through the cracks. Mayo Connect is extremely important to me. So, I'm scheduling time now to review posts and respond.

I think I also needed a break from the groups here while I established my new outside interests to the point that they are now part of my life. I'm sifting through all the new activities and deciding which to leave behind and which to keep. Time and energy limits require prioritization of the things most important to me. I'm slowly adjusting to my new life here after 3 years of not having friends or being connected to my local community. I am so grateful for the support of Mayo Connect and you each individually. I feel like the people in this group are truly great friends of mine.

@parus When I first was reading your posts you seemed (to me) to be so down and hopeless that I was worried about you harming yourself. Not so anymore! Your posts have changed so much over the past year and become happy, open, free and joking. I am so happy about this change and I wanted to be sure you appreciate the work you've done to get to where you are now. I certainly appreciate your strength and love. Your posts and sharing help me to be better. You are a wonder!

@lioness You have been consistently a helper of others. I love how you share your knowledge with us every time you post. You have rarely asked for support, but when you do you have laid the groundwork for everyone to want to help you. What a caring and lovely woman you are.

@merpreb When you first started posting, I felt envious of you, and had some fear that in my absence you would acquire my friends here. You have done exactly that, and now I am thankful for your support of them! You offer very concrete support, information, and loving care. I'm no longer fearing loss of those people you support. I'm grateful for your posts and time here. You are a gift.

@gingerw You are another wonderfully supportive and caring person whose posts are spot on. I love reading your recommendations and how doing those things yourself has helped you. I'm grateful for your presence on this Connect.

I'm not meaning to leave people out of my post, I just wanted to be sure I expressed my feelings for those I have thanked here. I hope I don't sound like I'm assuming a "superior" position to anyone with my appreciations, as I truly see us as equals in everything.

Mar 1, 2019 · Gratitude Discussion Group in Just Want to Talk

Oops, shiny runs are just fresh oil paint.

Mar 1, 2019 · Gratitude Discussion Group in Just Want to Talk

Posting the mostly completed painting of my husband. I'll be working on it over the next year as my eyes see things I have left out, but I'm happy with the results so far. It's been so many years since I painted that I wasn't sure I still had the ability. Practice makes permanent, so I'll keep painting now. Thanks for everyone's resonates to my previous post. Love to you all.

Mar 1, 2019 · Gratitude Discussion Group in Just Want to Talk

@lioness @parus @gingerw

At Kaiser and some other places now you must call and request the results of your tests. I think insurance, for-profit healthcare, and limited number of doctors have caused the problem. To be profitable (or in some instances to break even) doctors are required to see a certain number of patients each day. This means they can only spend minimal time with patients who aren't acute. If they fall below their required number they often must take a cut in pay, or they may lose their jobs.

Computers have actually helped the doctors and nurses, and ultimately patients. Previously doctors would see their patients and at the end of each day they dictated their findings to tape to be transcribed the following day by staff and assigned the ICD number that corresponded to the patient's medical problem. The staff often needed to review the doctors handwritten notes to confirm their transcription. Have you tried to read doctor handwriting? It's terrible! Also, doctors often didn't like to to dictate their findings after a long day at work (12+ hours), so they let the patient files build up for a few weeks before trying to do them in a marathon session. This resulted in errors and difficulty for the patient who was awaiting their insurance reimbursement. With the computers doctors spend much less time transcribing information and are assured that the information entered is correct as they have you in the room when they are recording it. Things are more accurate and mistakes are hopefully fewer in number.

All change is difficult to adjust to, but in the long run computer use will improve the care given. I can't say the same about having to change doctors so often! I feel for you Parus. I hope Medicare for All (universal, single payer) will solve some of these problems for all of us. It will at the least, not be profit-oriented! It seems that "the Golden Calf" worship has led us to the state we're in these days. I hope my explanation has been helpful. This is from my 8 years working in healthcare/hospitals/clinics at an administrative level and seeing the challenges and changes that doctors and nurses are dealing with. The vast majority of healthcare professionals are truly interested in helping their patients improve. Only a few are truly bad at their jobs.

I am grateful for my 8 years of experience in Healthcare as it has given me compassion and empathy for those who work tirelessly to help those of us who need their expertise.

Mar 1, 2019 · Gratitude Discussion Group in Just Want to Talk


How sweet is the stained glass picture your grandson made for you! Made with love for sure. How old is he? I love his use of color and the balance he achieved in this abstract.

Mar 1, 2019 · Gratitude Discussion Group in Just Want to Talk


That is a beautiful and intricate stained glass. And, the creators clearly understand you and what's important to you. What a wonderful gift from their hearts to you and your husband's hearts! I hope you're healing well.

Mar 1, 2019 · Is it real or unreal ??!! in Depression & Anxiety


My deepest condolences for the loss of your close friend in your life Jake. There is a grief thread on Connect that I recommend you check out. In my experience it's very hard to feel the responsibility of following through on the wishes of the person you just lost. You will need time to adjust before you begin making decisions on their behalf. If you can find ways to extend your time, do so. The suggestions offered here are very good. I hope you find peace and acceptance of the changes her death will mean in your life.

Mar 1, 2019 · Is it real or unreal ??!! in Depression & Anxiety


We got a little side tracked here, but good to hear that you can now obtain your medicine from your pharmacy. I have recently experienced the same change in the effects of one of my medications when my new doctor used a different manufacturer. It's not as effective as the previous one, but I'm adjusting to it. At first I thought it was just my imagination, but now I know it wasn't. Thanks for your post.