About

First Name
Gail

Last Name
Ledesma

City
Yorba Linda

State/Province
CA

Country of Residence
United States of America

Postal/Zip Code
92886

Health Interests
Chronic pain, Healthy Aging, Hormonal and metabolic disorders, Mental health disorders, Women's health issues

Posts (630)

6 days ago · Fly Fishing, Gardening and the Northwest: Meet @thankful in About Connect: Who, What & Why

@thankful

Your Spotlight just came to my attention this morning. Thank you for sharing a bit of who you are with us. I love Washington after I spent a couple of months on a consulting project in Clarkston 3 years ago. It's not Oregon, but having lived in Northern California (Mt. Shasta) with Oregon sandwiched between Washington, I appreciate the beauty and the fishing opportunities you have. Your posts have been positive and very helpful for those who are looking for connection and reassurance. We are thankful to have you on Mayo Connect.

Mon, Jan 7 12:53pm · Tapering off clonazepam in Depression & Anxiety

@elwooodsdad

My only concern for you is taking the extra 1 mg at night and then sleeping 10.5 hours. You need to be careful not to take so much that your respiration is decreased. Many deaths are the result of this cause. If you are taking other medications they may add a cumulative effect to your central nervous system slowing down. Be very careful and let your doctor know what you're doing.

Mon, Jan 7 12:19pm · STOPPING ANTIDEPRESSANTS MADE ME WORSE THAN EVER!! in Depression & Anxiety

@aliali

We haven't heard from you for about a week now, and I'm wondering how you're doing? Have you been able to find some relief for your symptoms? Have you found a new doctor? Please let me know. I'm hoping for a better new year for all of us. Peace.

Fri, Jan 4 8:07pm · Inability to live a normal life. in Epilepsy & Seizures

@davidinvegas

I'm happy your interview went well. The interviewer can't ask you why you don't have a driver's license. If driving is not part of the job, they can't ask you anything about it. They probably want to know if you have a driver's license because they will do a background check and sometimes use your license number for that. They will check motor vehicle records to see if you lost your license due to DUI, etc. They usually only go back 7 years of your history. The basic thing I told all interviewers was only ask questions relevant to the job–nothing else. You shouldn't volunteer extra information about your health until you have been hired. If you have other questions, I'm happy to answer them.

Fri, Jan 4 9:43am · Inability to live a normal life. in Epilepsy & Seizures

@davidinvegas

I hope you get this before your interview today. It is illegal for the company to ask questions about your health in an interview! Don't answer or offer any information about your health in the interview. After you get the job you can discuss your health needs with Human Resources. You'll be protected by the ADA once you've been hired. I was an Human Resources executive before I retired, so I know. Don't give them any reason not to hire you. Go with your skills, what work you've done in the past, and how you will contribute to the organization. Good luck!

Wed, Jan 2 9:09pm · STOPPING ANTIDEPRESSANTS MADE ME WORSE THAN EVER!! in Depression & Anxiety

@aliali

My father had ECT when he was in his 40s and was hospitalized for his mental illness. It was very intense and left him with no memory of large parts of his life. I can understand why your doctor doesn't want to approve that for you, especially since you did well on the Escitalopram (depralex). Stick it out a little longer. Has it been a month since you restarted the medication? Did you start taking the new medication, Brintellix, instead of the Depralex? Hang in there, good things take time.

Wed, Jan 2 3:51pm · Husband with OCD, Bipolar, Epilepsy and Brain injury in Mental Health

@calite

I'm sorry to hear of your husband's diagnosis and behavior changes that were negative. Since his diagnosis and medications it sounds as if things are improving and giving you hope that at some point he will return to closer to his former self. Do you know the cause of his issues, i.e., did he have an accident or some other incident that was at the base of his OCD, Bi-polar, Epilepsy and brain injury? How long has he had these issues?

I understand your wanting to know if his mood swings and intense feelings and behaviors will get better. His doctors are the best people to answer those questions. I have dealt with family members who have mental illness issues, and I know it's difficult to do over the long run. No matter how much you love the person, you can tire of dealing with the repetitive issues that you thought were "better." There is probably no guarantee that your husband will continue to improve over time, any more than any "normal" people have a guarantee that they will be stable and improve in life. That said, there's not necessarily any promise that he won't get better either. So, hope is warranted.

As his caregiver you may push your own emotions down in order not to upset your husband. At some point those emotions tend to bubble up into full blown anger that needs to be released. I highly recommend counseling for yourself so you can learn how to take care of your emotions and set boundaries for yourself. A good place to start is with a support group that has members dealing with the same things you are. Many hospitals offer these group meetings at no cost to caregivers and family members. Start there, but also seek out individual counseling for yourself. I was able to manage and express my own feelings constructively after learning how in my therapy sessions. You cannot change your husband's behavior or feelings, only he can do that if he is medically able. The only emotions and behavior you are in control of are your own.

Good luck to you and your husband as he recovers. Please keep us in the loop as you work through these difficult, yet promising times in your marriage.

Wed, Jan 2 11:47am · Reunion With Brother After Years (Severe Anxiety) in Depression & Anxiety

@yangedd

I just reread all your posts, and something stood out to me that I hadn't noticed before. When you wrote about your partner, you said he got a job in Dublin. Are you gay? I'm asking because my son is gay, and he had a lot of family issues when he was younger that are still problems between him and his dad. He's 48 now, and he's my only biological child. Please let me know if you are willing to share this information, as that may be a large part of your brother's issues with you. I love my son and completely accept him as he is, so have no fear about how I will respond to you should you decide to share this information.

I'm so sorry to hear that your meeting didn't happen as you had planned. It sounds as if you two didn't even see each other; is that correct? If not, did you speak on the phone or communicate over text? What was said that caused your anger and his to arise? It's so difficult to read words and not put emotions in them that may not be there in reality. Years ago I decided to get counseling due to issues from my childhood that resulted in PTSD, and depression. In counseling I had to learn how to express my tremendous anger, of which I wasn't even aware at first, in ways that didn't blast away everyone in my life. It is possible to express anger without "acting it out." To learn these skills, you may want to find a Gestalt and Multi-modal therapist. I was in counseling for a long time–many years, and it's one of the best things I have ever done! The skills I learned have served me well throughout my life. I have not however, been able to establish good relationships with one older brother (who sexual abused me as a child) or with my sister who has borderline personality and is toxic for me. However, I do have close and dear friends for life with whom I have loving relationships. I recommend that you seek counseling.

Please keep in touch and if you are willing, share the answer to my first question. This year you can make your life what you want it to be, and what you desire deep in your soul. Peace. GailB