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Apr 13, 2017 · Alzheimer's and Incontinence in Caregivers: Dementia

Hi Whitey,

My Mother would “Dig” at her briefs until the absorbent material spread all over the bed. I tried everything, then I tried men’s cotton briefs without the flap over her briefs. She still digs but not through the briefs. Not sure that would help your problem, but maybe another layer would help??
Take Care,

Jan 2, 2017 · Caring for someone with dementia / Alzheimer's in Caregivers: Dementia

Hey Redhead,

They are talking about the VA Home Health Aid Program. The VA qualifies and pays the private company to come in and help depending on your needs. You might look into the VA Aid and Attendance Program, there is a financial need that has to be met for that, but once you get approved the benefit comes directly to you in the way of a direct deposit and you determine how to use the monthly monetary benefit. The process is difficult but there are several organizations that will help, DAV; AMVETS; and such. Go to and search for Aid and Attendance for the details. If you qualify for it, I can assure you it IS WORTH IT!! My Mother was qualified for it last year and it has made a big difference. Good luck!!


Dec 10, 2016 · Meet fellow Caregivers - Introduce yourself in Caregivers

Hi traveler17,
Last year I took a course through the Alzheimer’s Association for caregivers. They handed out a card to each of us, like a business card, on it was a statement explaining your “love ones” condition, which let other person know that their behavior would be a little “off”. You could write your own on card stock or even printer paper with your computer. The one they passed out says, “My loved one has Alzheimer’s disease (memory loss) and is sometimes confused. Thank you for your patience and understanding.”

Good luck!!

Nov 25, 2016 · Caring for someone with dementia / Alzheimer's in Caregivers: Dementia

My Mom loves babies and small children as well, but she has little interest in the baby dolls? She holds the head and move it over her work bench like she is writing with it! I’m not sure why! I find myself looking at the children’s toys at stores…have to watch the small items now though, Mom has started to put things in her mouth! Crayons are out of the question now, she has tried to eat them!!
The day care Mom goes to has people in her condition to varying degrees, but they also have people younger, and some with physical difficulties. There is one guy there that the workers there think he thinks Mom is his Mother! You might want to consider a day care option sooner rather than later, if there is one near you. Sooner would allow your Mom to establish a social network there while she is more alert. My Mom is NOT communicative, at least not much, but these people recognize each other and miss someone when they miss a day.

I don’t know where you are as far as incontinence goes, but once there, get dog poop bags to contain the soiled items, it keeps the odor down! I have obtained a Hospital type bed for Mom and a lift recliner as well. She can’t use a walker any longer, we have to pick her up and hold her hands to walk her around the house. I’m not sure how much longer she will be able to walk at all, she is winded walking between the living room and her bedroom!

It’s all trial and error!

Nov 25, 2016 · Caring for someone with dementia / Alzheimer's in Caregivers: Dementia

Hey kmkm,

Like you I am caring for my Mom, 94, and other than her mind she is in good health, though at 94 she doesn’t walk well and not at all with out help. First thing I would suggest to you is have a long hard discussion with your family members about helping you with caring for your Mom. I know you said they “give you a break once in a while”, but if other people are in the house, I think it should be a shared responsibility. It’s just me and Mom so I don’t have any family help. You might look into a senior center or elder care program in your area, we have WACOG, (Western Arizona Council of Governments) they are a great help with Mom. They pay for some hours for her to attend an Adult day care and arrange for transportation for her to go to the day care. Day Care is a great way for you to get some relief and “me” time. Where we live the Catholic Community Service runs the adult day care. My Mom can’t do the things she once enjoyed, but she has found other things to spend time doing, odd things. She will entertain herself with folding towels, or napkins, (I went to the $ store and bought several cloth napkins for her). She will spend hours looking at greeting cards and the envelopes they came in, she likes to look at the paper too. TV is a pastime for her, she likes the shows that show a lot of nature, outdoors, like national parks. I moved her chair so she can look out the window and see motor and foot traffic. Until recently she enjoyed batting back and forth balloons, and children’s jigsaw puzzles, and coloring books . She likes certain stuffed animals, you might try a baby doll. I made a “work board” for her that sits on her chair arms, she can place her “work” things there.
Hope I have given you at least an idea that will work for your Mom….Good LUCK!!

Sep 22, 2016 · Caring for someone with dementia / Alzheimer's in Caregivers: Dementia

Hey @IndianaScott, I’m all about learning how to deal with situations BEFORE I need the knowledge! Any pointers you might pass along would be greatly appreciated. I just don’t know if I will be able to handle Mom if she gets to the point of not being able to walk at all. She will soon be 94, and with the dementia she does not respond to any requests or demands…she does not help at all any more with getting into/out of bed or chairs or toilet. If she gets to the point of needing 2 people to handle those things, I may need to quit working. We will not be able to afford 2 paid care givers.


Sep 21, 2016 · Caring for someone with dementia / Alzheimer's in Caregivers: Dementia

@nanax2 how do you deal, cope with your bedridden Mom? My Mom can still walk with someone holding her hands and walking backwards in front of her, well she really scuffles her feet slowly. Her gait is VERY slow and her balance is very BAD. I worry I will not be able to handle her at home anymore by myself when she is no longer able to walk at all. I mean How would I get her out of bed to bathroom to living room and back again? Will she have to remain in bed all the time? How can one person change her? Got any pointers?

Thanks and hang in there

Sep 18, 2016 · Caring for someone with dementia / Alzheimer's in Caregivers: Dementia

There is a VA program for home care for the Vet only, I can’t remember the name of it. The second VA resource is for Vets and spouses, and it’s called Aid and Attendance. I when through the paperwork nightmare to get Mom qualified for that one, it helps out and worth looking into if you qualify. Check out the VA web page.