These last 7-8 days have been trying to say the least. We got a call in the early morning hours of last Thursday telling us that my father-in-law had passed away. He had COPD and had just been released from the hospital that afternoon. My mother-in law ended up in the hospital Saturday evening from a combination of grief and parainfluenza. (https://www.cdc.gov/parainfluenza/index.html) So, we were taking care of her physically and emotionally. (And also has me worried about coming down with this virus. We go for my husband's checkup at Mayo the 20th) Unfortunately, a lot of that care fell on me. My husband has 2 sisters and 1 brother. We took our turn staying with her and my husband left our turn totally up to me. When it was his brother's turn it just didn't happen when it should. Unfortunately, this led me to have an emotional meltdown while we were there. His whole family did apologize to dumping so much of her care into my lap, thankfully. (This was due to me unloading on his sister about how ticked I was at my husband) I told him that I have nothing left and I just couldn't care for both of them. I didn't realize how burnt out I am until that moment.
Let this be a lesson too all of us. Say no when necessary and remember there is no such thing as too much self care.