Unhelpful “friend”

I think it's very presumptuous of this "friend" to impose upon you.

Since having a stroke, I have very irregular sleep patterns: I'm usually awake most of the night. My wife and I cannot permit overnight guests.

Boundaries are important.
Sharlyn Green and I discuss this:

It was very rude of your friend to act that way, but I’d probably just let it go this time. I think your response was a good explanation. If she wants more discussion on the matter, let her be the one to open that door. I understand early morning me time to prepare to face the day.

lag630, I think it impossible for someone who hasn't experienced giving this type of care to comprehend living on the edge of breaking.
Your friend assumed and she shouldn't have. She was probably hurt besides being inconvenienced. She compounded rudeness by her response.
I would try to explain it in a less honest way that would get closer to the truth for her by saying that mornings are fraught because your husband has difficult mornings and that you protect his privacy.
She is completely wrong, but she doesn't (and may never) realize it.

@scottrl Thank you for validating my hurt feelings. I really needed to get this out here because I don’t want to gossip or complain to other friends. Yes, I will tread with caution when situations put me In proximity of this person.

@labrown Great advice. Thank you. Yes, those early mornings are my saving grace.

@gently Thank you for your insight and understanding.
I plan to tread lightly..this would be yet another situation where I have to measure my responses; similar to caring for someone with DM.

That was a really unloving thing for your friend to say— we need people in our lives who support us right now— not those who want us to take care of ‘them’ too. Im sorry that that happened to you. some people are takers and that is a sad thing. Sending a hug.

Remember the important words “ free advice is worth what you pay for it”
It sounds like maybe you need more supportive compassionate friends and I’m sure her words were hurtful to you
No amount of explaining will convince this person you need your time save your breath and bring people into your circle that have the qualities you need in your friendship and at this juncture in your life what’s the sayings about different friends for different seasons? The good news is YOU know what you need and it’s okay to ask for it and give it to yourself
Best of luck

@rebeccagrover Thank you. I feel that I’m becoming a better person by learning how to navigate the waters of the dementia world. I was shocked by this behavior because in my experience, when you are kind and respectful to others, it is returned 10-fold….

@llsmith211 Thank you. Fortunately, I am blessed with other friends who are so very supportive and loving. I think my friendship with this one has expired.