the grieving process
My husband is in the late stages of early onset alzheimers. I feel that I have been saying goodbye slowly for 10 or more years. I feel more detached from him emotionally all the time while at the same time feel so sad watching him disappear. It is a struggle and it seems that no one else really understands. How are some other caregivers who are losing the love of their life coping?
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I thank you again for your words. All the respondents have given me a better understanding and insight of what’s happening. It’s also given to a new level of grief too, as it’s been happening for two years now, I’m really trying to accept this reality and accept that the man I once loved and still do, in a different way, cannot love me back. Now I am seeing that self care and self love is crucial. Thank you once again.
Hi. I’m here for you but the others are much better help than I will be. I am in year 4 of caring for my sister with early onset ALZ. They help me a LOT and I know we have a long way to go. But I’m pressing on with the help of this group. I’ll keep up with you in my thoughts and prayers.
We can all help each other and become a caregiving team. Knowing we’re not alone can, hopefully, be a source of strength.
Thanks sallysue, the really hard parts of caring seem to come in peaks and waves. The others have really helped for sure. The other night when I checked into the group I felt so alone and lost. Today is better. And I will reread the posts too, to remind me that I can trust myself in this process. Thank you and I hope you have a good day.
Thank you for sharing your story Scott. Loved your comment about courage. My husband is a retired physician, is disabled, and lives life in a wheelchair. Mayo Clinic rehab has done so much for him–taught him to stand, stand and pivot, and take a few steps in a walker. I hung a saying behind my desk, one I saw on the wall of rehab. It reads: You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” This quote applies to countless family caregivers. So glad you have given yourself permission to feel your feelings–a healing step.