The Great Debate... Do you define yourself as your illness or are you a human being living with an illness?

Posted by Roxie43 @roxie43, Jun 4, 2012

Dear Reader’s,

My friend Momentum has posed a very important question! Do you conform to societal labels or do we challenge the system when the system attempts to self impose their views on who we TRULY are?

It can become very easy to be consumed by external factors when Identifying who were are. I am first and foremost, a human being. I am a daughter, mother, sister, grandmother, friend, colleague, peer, employee, a woman, etc. And, I live with depression and anxiety that I am NOT ashamed of. I did not cause it but am very proactive in minimizing it’s effects on my life. Last year, being proactive did not work because a group of administrator’s were on a mission to destroy my career, my life, my livelihood and my self worth.

However, still, I refused to conform to their biased views because I am who I am and am very proud of myself despite that they are ashamed of me for being proud. Does this make sense? In life, we will come across individuals that know we are exceptional and competent workers but for some reason THEY NOT US cannot get past a label.

I know people, who have been treated in this broken system since they were adolescents and are now in their 50’s and all the know is the label they are giving. Some will have been so poorly condition, that they actually believe “I am a Schizophrenic” versus I am a human being living with Schizophrenia.

Lizkat wanted to educate healthcare provider’s! Well, here we go. The helping professions is suffering and it needs to revamp itself and go WAYYYYY back to the friendly visitors in the early years of social work. People should not further be exposed to victimization because of their unfortunate circumstances. And, people living with any type of illness should not be made to feel like they are worthless and cannot dream and do BIG things with their lives.

In my last year in graduate school, I was suicidal but you know what my friends? The employer and familial issues were the culprit that exacerbated my illness. Regardless, of all of the roadblocks that presented themselves, I graduated and was told by my thesis professor that my thesis was one of the best in his class in 2010. So, did I allow other’s hurtful actions to negate my dreams and goals? Absolutely not……

You can be diagnosed with the most horrific condition but the mind is powerful and when we focus diligently on the task at hand that one is trying to achieve no label can stop you!

I have good days, and I have days, when all seems overwhelming but I refuse to conform to what society or some select insensitive individuals try to say as to…… what I am or am not capable of.

By now, most of you can tell that I am a writer and most recently put together a case for the US District Court that some believe a lawyer put together. I, until my last breath, will always challenge the status Quo because it is wrong, it is hurtful, it is demoralizing, it can ruin lives and there is no place for this type of practice and/or behavior in our world.

Big Hug Your Friend,
Roxie

@china

family likes 2 define u as crazy at x’s. It reminds me why i left but i dont think they mean 2 hurt me.

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Family is different. Some cultures say certain things but they are not malicious when they say certain things.

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@gottabbetter

I had an employer that really fits this subject. It was when I first started going to a therapist. I would need to leave early for my appts so I trusted in her to say that I was going for depression. One day at work when I was having a stressful day she actually asked me if I was taking my meds and how my sessions were going!! How rude and insulting!! I have been hesitant ever since to trust who I tell. It sucks.

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i cant trust cause they change

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Hi Friends…
My cousin just informed me that his daughters cancer has returned. Prayers please.
Hugs,
Rox

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@roxie43

Hi Friends…
My cousin just informed me that his daughters cancer has returned. Prayers please.
Hugs,
Rox

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My prayers are with you and your family. My friend is continuing her battle too Hugs

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@roxie43

Hi Friends…
My cousin just informed me that his daughters cancer has returned. Prayers please.
Hugs,
Rox

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Thanks Piglit. It’s a distant cousin but still cancer is serious..

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@roxie43

Hi Friends…
My cousin just informed me that his daughters cancer has returned. Prayers please.
Hugs,
Rox

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I am sorry about your friend Piglit. We have to pray and be thankful for the medical advances.
Hugs

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@roxie43

Hi Friends…
My cousin just informed me that his daughters cancer has returned. Prayers please.
Hugs,
Rox

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I.m sorry for you too. My friend has liver cancer and has the most incredible strength I have seen . Hugs

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@roxie43

Hi Friends…
My cousin just informed me that his daughters cancer has returned. Prayers please.
Hugs,
Rox

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It’s amazing how strong we are even though we don’t always feel as such.
Hugs

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@stevenc

Interesting what you have said. I have depression, for years I went through life never feeling as if I did not belong, always on the outside looking in. My life style reflected how I felt and viewed myself. I was raised in foster homes, 4 in 5 years. I never let anyone in or felt wanted.
The problem with society is you are weak if admit to the pain that you feel, doctors use case studies, put you in a diagnoed box, when each case is as unique as the person. As you said, you are given a label and expected to wear it around your neck. Depression is not who I am, that is why the medical profession fails…… They do not know the person.

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I’m an epileptic since age of 9. It took me 10 yrs. To get a dc. Who would realize, I’m the patient and It’sme who experiences this. For the first time , he refuses to return my calls and has his nurse talk to me. I had a scary situation, one thing I don’t like is being ignored when its only a question, and his job to help. Not like I call shrug day.

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@stevenc

Interesting what you have said. I have depression, for years I went through life never feeling as if I did not belong, always on the outside looking in. My life style reflected how I felt and viewed myself. I was raised in foster homes, 4 in 5 years. I never let anyone in or felt wanted.
The problem with society is you are weak if admit to the pain that you feel, doctors use case studies, put you in a diagnoed box, when each case is as unique as the person. As you said, you are given a label and expected to wear it around your neck. Depression is not who I am, that is why the medical profession fails…… They do not know the person.

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god 4u. we know our selves better than any1 else. Sad that u know more than a doc. Best of luck 2u

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Hello my friends,
I hope everyone is feeling better and keeping your heads up during times that can be so challenging. As always you are all in my thoughts..
Hugs, Rox

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i am comfy in my skin n who dont like it can get help 4 themself

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@china

i am comfy in my skin n who dont like it can get help 4 themself

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So true China…we are not the ones with deep rooted labels..Projection!

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@china

i am comfy in my skin n who dont like it can get help 4 themself

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Love it….Yes, people do not like it when others are happy despite their challenges that they did not choose to have.. Always be proud because there is not ONE HUMAN BEING that is PERFECT on this planet…

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