Suicide is Not Painless
"Suicide is painless" –not necessarily. It wreaks havoc among the survivors and causes unbearable pain.
"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem!"– cliche.
"IF you're that unhappy–go for it!"
"Just push harder, try harder, snap out of it!"
Talk to someone who won't dismiss you. Suicidal thoughts are a result of a snowball effect. They start out small, then in combination with your brain's chemistry, they begin to fester…and grow out of control. Warped thoughts become obsessive. Rational thoughts–
those of loving, caring people, family, friends and pets are abandoned and "why" is forgotten…never explained, nor understood. Devastation is left as a legacy.
Before you begin to emotionally drowned, caught in a destructive riptide, call for help, calmness, reasoning… Decompression…
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
– Call or text 988
– Chat with a counsellor at https://988lifeline.org/chat/
Chat is available 24/7 across the U.S. You don't need your phone. You can chat on your computer.
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Thanks for the comment. As a "survivor" of my brother's suicide when we were children, at 70 years of age now, I have never gotten over my brother's suicide. I always missed him and love him.
I am a suicide survivor and I agree it’s not painless when you are left without legs and have to adapt to hard life. Get help do not try to end your life or you’ll want to try again believe me.!
Same as what happened to me and my family. lost a brother when he was 33 and he left a 7 year old son who is now 33 and we still dont understand how things are so bad today that in my case still talking about them 33 years later. Dave
It’s a very difficult situation to be in i as a mother can’t call myself a survivor I have been trying to cope with my life without my son for the past ten years now and it has been a difficult task sometimes I feel that it’s just a dream and I will wake up to see his smiling face but then i realise that the only way that’s going to happen is when I leave this world also maybe I will be with him for all I know is that I am living but not as a survivor
I never really survived either. I am sorry for what you endure. After my brother's suicide, I watched my parents suffer for many years. The laughter in own home was gone. I know they never got over it. They were in their 40's when my brother died and my parents both lived into their 90's, so my parents suffered for many years. One of the last things my mother said to me on her death bed was that she was going to see Sanford. I went to see a new counselor today to deal with my own depression issues and the questions brought my own pain regarding my brother's suicide, my biggest loss in life, to the forefront again. I am crying as I type this. My biggest fear is that my own children will make the same choice my brother did. I read Unattended Sorrow by Stephen Levine recently as grieving is a fact of my life. Every day. It was very helpful.
I sincerely hope that everything is and will be fine with your children we have to grit our teeth and try to be as normal as we can for our families my prayers are and will always be with you keep praying like I do for everyone it gives me strength to face a new day God bless 🙏
Have any of you grieving suicide survivors reached out to the organization called "Compassionate Friends"? They support people in your deep suffering. My Uncle and his wife got tremendous comfort from these commiserating people, after their beloved son killed himself after years of suffering (his and his parents')
I remember my poor uncle driving around every night searching for his son when he had gone missing – that was after a full day's work. After he found his son's body, he never stopped suffering until the day he died decades later. I remember hearing that he went almost entirely without sleep the entire time.
Nevertheless, he received invaluable comfort from this unique group – more even than from his church group.
I send you my deepest condolences, friends.